(Note: For purposes of this blog, an "encounter" refers to a particular person I hooked up with at some point. Some people were seen multiple times, but I am not counting each instance as a separate encounter here. Like today, I plan to write about follow-up encounters only when there is something noteworthy....can't imagine anyone would just want a post written purely to describe more sex, right???)
So, as we left off, I just had a lovely encounter with our married friend, Kim. She invited me to meet her again, and I agreed. Although I do like the one and done encounters, it is sometimes fun to see someone multiple times when we really seem to click well. I was still a little uneasy about her being married, particularly since seemed pretty emotional and upset about the way her marriage was unraveling. There was potential for messiness, but I forged ahead nonetheless.
We met again the following week.....twice. The sex was great again both times. She was sensual and vocal, and even a little kinky! The post-sex discussion revolved around her describing the problems in her marriage. Both times she became emotional and started crying. I felt very badly for her and the terrible situation she was in (her husband sounded like a complete dick). She told me how nice it was to be with someone who appreciated her and treated her well, and wondered why her husband could not do the same. It felt good to hear that, though it was sad that her she felt trapped in such an unhappy life. She loved her son, and wouldn't hurt him by going through a painful divorce process. So she was going to stick it out, no matter how miserable she became. And trust me, she was miserable.
A few days after I saw her for the third time, she emailed me. She told me that despite the misery her husband was putting her through, she felt unbearable guilt about straying from her marriage. She had told her husband about seeing me. He was of course enraged, though she assured me that she would not give him any specific information about me (not that she really had much to give, aside from the email address I was writing her on). She told me she was sorry, but that she had made a mistake, and could not see me again. That was the last I ever heard from her.
I felt terrible for her. From what she described of her husband, he wouldn't be the type to leave her for cheating....he was too insecure himself. He would probably just use it as more reason to treat her like shit. And it made me angry, because without going into detail, she had plenty of justification to be cheating on him. But she was very conservative with a religious background, and couldn't keep doing it. I hope she finds the courage to leave him eventually.
I was actually a little nervous for a while after this....kept expecting her psycho husband to be waiting for me in a dark alley somewhere. But luckily, it did not occur. Perhaps now though you understand my nervousness about meeting married women for "NSA" encounters. You never know when there might be some strings!
You're probably assuming this was the last encounter I had with a married woman, right? I thought it would be too....but I was later convinced otherwise. With much better results. But we'll get to that story soon enough!
Sunday, August 8, 2010
Friday, August 6, 2010
Encounter #9: Strings Attached?
It started with a post I made offering a sensual massage.
She was the first person to respond. And she responded quickly....within about 15 minutes of the post being published. She seemed very eager, which of course was a good sign.
Her name was Kim. She was in her mid-30's, lived within about a 20 minute drive of where I live. She told me that she had blond hair, green eyes, and stood about 5'5.
And she was married. With a 6 year old son.
When she threw that in, the warning bells started going off in my head. All the potential risks that I described in my previous post starting rushing into my mind. The angry husband. The baggage. The risk of her unhappiness in her marriage (which she confirmed) leading her to want more than just a casual experience with me. It was alot to process. Perhaps if I was also married, I might have been able to rationalize it as an even playing field. But being single, that was certainly not the case. I thought about it long and hard, until finally making a decision. I was going to go for it. You only live once, have to take some risks every now and then. She sounded sexy and eager. I was going to give it a shot.
We met two days later. She was as attractive as she described. I gave her a long, full-body massage. Teasing her between her legs as my fingers brushed by repeatedly. That led to me going down on her. Which led to her going down on me. Which led to us fucking. (Have I finally convinced everyone about the gateway potential of the massage??). Each step of the way was passionate, erotic, and extremely pleasurable. As we laid in bed together afterward, I was thinking to myself that I had made the right decision. It was one of the most fun encounters I have had so far, if not the most fun. What was I worrying about?
Then she said, "when can we do this again"? And that was when the warning bells started again. She wanted more than a one time experience. But how much more?
I would agree to see her again the following week to find out.....
She was the first person to respond. And she responded quickly....within about 15 minutes of the post being published. She seemed very eager, which of course was a good sign.
Her name was Kim. She was in her mid-30's, lived within about a 20 minute drive of where I live. She told me that she had blond hair, green eyes, and stood about 5'5.
And she was married. With a 6 year old son.
When she threw that in, the warning bells started going off in my head. All the potential risks that I described in my previous post starting rushing into my mind. The angry husband. The baggage. The risk of her unhappiness in her marriage (which she confirmed) leading her to want more than just a casual experience with me. It was alot to process. Perhaps if I was also married, I might have been able to rationalize it as an even playing field. But being single, that was certainly not the case. I thought about it long and hard, until finally making a decision. I was going to go for it. You only live once, have to take some risks every now and then. She sounded sexy and eager. I was going to give it a shot.
We met two days later. She was as attractive as she described. I gave her a long, full-body massage. Teasing her between her legs as my fingers brushed by repeatedly. That led to me going down on her. Which led to her going down on me. Which led to us fucking. (Have I finally convinced everyone about the gateway potential of the massage??). Each step of the way was passionate, erotic, and extremely pleasurable. As we laid in bed together afterward, I was thinking to myself that I had made the right decision. It was one of the most fun encounters I have had so far, if not the most fun. What was I worrying about?
Then she said, "when can we do this again"? And that was when the warning bells started again. She wanted more than a one time experience. But how much more?
I would agree to see her again the following week to find out.....
Sunday, August 1, 2010
Pros and Cons of Being with a Married Woman
This post is a segue into my next CL encounter.....
As I had mentioned, I am a single guy. Never have been married (almost was.....but that is a story for another day). So, as you might expect, I typically seek out single women to have my fun experiences with. Not overly shocking so far, right? Well, my experiences with CL have opened my eyes to an interesting reality......there are a pretty good amount of married women out there who are looking for encounters on the side. Some are dissatisfied with their sex lives at home, some are looking for an emotional need to be met, and some are just feeling neglected in general. I should also note that some are in an open marriage where such experiences are accepted and encouraged, though we will get more into that in a later encounter. I know, sorry for all the teasing today. But one story at a time!
Anyway, perhaps I am naive, but I found this all to be pretty surprising. I had kinda assumed that married MEN would be the ones prowling a site like CL for extramarital action. But apparently a good amount of married women are doing the same thing. So with that being the case, before we get to our next story, let's just examine the pros and cons of a single guy hooking up with a married woman:
PROS:
1. These women are certainly looking for sex without strings!
2. Less worry about expectations for longer term relationships.
3. Many married women in this situation are very sexually frustrated, which makes it all the more exciting to be the one to be able to finally meet their sexual needs!
4. MILFs can be pretty hot!
5. Greater chance to have fun with someone who might have less experience experimenting with different things, which adds extra excitement and intensity.
CONS:
1. Big, angry husbands coming after me.
2. Possibly getting caught up in a messy situation if divorce is forthcoming.
3. Extra stress with the increased need to be ultra discrete (though this could be kind of a turn on too, so I guess it can be a pro or con).
4. The "I want to leave my husband and run away with you" potential. Perhaps not overly likely, but always a thought in the back of your head.
5. The "what if I really did fall for this woman and there is no shot for anything beyond this" potential. Again, may not be extremely likely, but who knows?
So there are the arguments both ways. We'll get into the story of my related encounter next time!
As I had mentioned, I am a single guy. Never have been married (almost was.....but that is a story for another day). So, as you might expect, I typically seek out single women to have my fun experiences with. Not overly shocking so far, right? Well, my experiences with CL have opened my eyes to an interesting reality......there are a pretty good amount of married women out there who are looking for encounters on the side. Some are dissatisfied with their sex lives at home, some are looking for an emotional need to be met, and some are just feeling neglected in general. I should also note that some are in an open marriage where such experiences are accepted and encouraged, though we will get more into that in a later encounter. I know, sorry for all the teasing today. But one story at a time!
Anyway, perhaps I am naive, but I found this all to be pretty surprising. I had kinda assumed that married MEN would be the ones prowling a site like CL for extramarital action. But apparently a good amount of married women are doing the same thing. So with that being the case, before we get to our next story, let's just examine the pros and cons of a single guy hooking up with a married woman:
PROS:
1. These women are certainly looking for sex without strings!
2. Less worry about expectations for longer term relationships.
3. Many married women in this situation are very sexually frustrated, which makes it all the more exciting to be the one to be able to finally meet their sexual needs!
4. MILFs can be pretty hot!
5. Greater chance to have fun with someone who might have less experience experimenting with different things, which adds extra excitement and intensity.
CONS:
1. Big, angry husbands coming after me.
2. Possibly getting caught up in a messy situation if divorce is forthcoming.
3. Extra stress with the increased need to be ultra discrete (though this could be kind of a turn on too, so I guess it can be a pro or con).
4. The "I want to leave my husband and run away with you" potential. Perhaps not overly likely, but always a thought in the back of your head.
5. The "what if I really did fall for this woman and there is no shot for anything beyond this" potential. Again, may not be extremely likely, but who knows?
So there are the arguments both ways. We'll get into the story of my related encounter next time!
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Update: Phone/Cyber Sex Challenge
Just a quick update on the phone/cybersex challenge. So far, only two brave souls have contacted me. One seems very interested in convincing me how good cyber sex can be, while the other seems tentative about giving me a mind-blowing session of phone sex. Not sure if she will have the guts to give it a shot, but we'll see. Contestant #1 seems like a definite go though, so we'll see how she does in our cyber session.
After all the private messages I received last time, I expected more confident women to take me up on this challenge! There's still time to prove me wrong though, so shoot me an email. No need to be shy :)
Blog recommendation for the day: check out Mina's (Secret Desire) latest......you'll need a cold shower afterward.
After all the private messages I received last time, I expected more confident women to take me up on this challenge! There's still time to prove me wrong though, so shoot me an email. No need to be shy :)
Blog recommendation for the day: check out Mina's (Secret Desire) latest......you'll need a cold shower afterward.
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