Up to this point, I think I had been handling my CL posts pretty well. The posts were well-written, suggestive without being offensive, focused on her pleasure as opposed to mine.....all good stuff. And I had been getting pretty good results, overall.
But as such things usually go, it was only a matter of time before I was just a little too slick for my own good. As I mentioned in my last post, my thought process was that since my massage posts so were so successful, there had to be other 'gateway' activities I could introduce to get even more responses. To recap, gateway activities are things like massages that are innocent seeming and don't scare people away, but set the right mood for things to eventually progress to naughtier activities.
So, what other gateways could I create. Hmmmm. Then it came to me. What about phone sex?? Or cyber sex?? Safe, anonymous, non-threatening. Yet still enjoyable. Yes, that fits the criteria for gateway activities! I It was decided.....I immediately created new posts, highlighting cyber sex and phone sex respectively (in separate posts of course, to not alienate people only interested in one or the other).
The initial returns were great. Several responses. A few non-starters, as always, but also a few legitimately interested ladies. Two in particular....one answering my phone sex post, and the other my cyber sex post.
To make a long story short, I eventually began engaging in the two respective activities with both ladies. Both were kinda fun the first time. A little less fun the next time. Kinda redundant the third time. You get the idea. After the third time with each person, I said to myself, ok, it's time to strike. The gateway has been established, and it's now time to cross over!
Not so fast. Neither had any interest in taking things to an in-person level. They were perfectly content with these anonymous, masturbatory sessions. They were both too nervous to meet in person, for different reasons (one married, one self-conscious). But they were more than happy to continue on with the calls and emails/IMs. I was not though, and told them I was going to move on.
Lessons learned. First, cyber sex and phone sex are overrated, if not part of a bigger, physically involved relationship. Second, not all gateways actually lead to something better. Sometimes the gateway is just the end of the road!
It was time to regroup.
Oops, I saw that coming. Those who are local and yet want to engage in these two activities -- it's almost guaranteed that they don't/won't meet. Sorry it was a time waster, but you can cross them off your bucket list.
ReplyDeleteOh I thoroughly agree with you on cyber and phone sex...not worth the time nor the effort if not part of an actual hot physical relationship. As a female I'd never bother responding to a post for either...and truthfully your CL posts for massages might be on the tame side for me to respond...I love to read a man's point of view on this and it's great to follow your adventures... Enjoy!
ReplyDeleteRosie: It's ok, I learned my lesson. Not like it was a really terrible experience, just left me wanting more. Which I luckily found! ;)
ReplyDeleteAnonymous: I initially assumed that the tame posts were necessary to get responses. You'll probably appreciate more of the adventures going forward, though.....I eventually learned that there are more women out there like you than I thought, who are responsive to more explicit posts!
I have to confess to indulging in a spot of webcam sex with someone other than Ruf.
ReplyDeleteIt only happened the once with a guy who lives on the other side of the world. He knows that I am now in a serious relationship but still keeps trying to persuade me to do it again. However, I found it something of a soul-less experience. With no emotional connection, watching and being watched is interesting and arousing in a detached way.
I felt slightly grubby at the end of it, I'm afraid.
I think "soul-less" is a perfect way to describe it......really just glorified masturbating.
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