Encounter #8: Not So Fast.....Part 1

She had responded to the oral sex post. She was definitely interested in receiving.....but.....she was also interested in giving! It was the first response I had gotten to my "oral sex for you" posts, where the woman actually said in her email that she would be willing to reciprocate. I was excited.

Then she wrote that, although she would reciprocate, there might be a little 'twist'. Hmmm, a twist. I wondered what she meant. Did she want to suck some chocolate syrup off of my penis or something? That would be a nice twist! Well, that wasn't exactly what she had in mind.

We got together in a nice local motel a few days after exchanging emails. She was definitely cute....short, but nice and curvy with dark hair and eyes. After some initial chit chat, we began kissing. She was a very good kisser, which is an underappreciated skill these days. We slowly undressed, exploring each other's bodies with our fingers and mouths. She had wonderful, smooth skin that was amazing to touch. I was getting ready to make my descent to her happy place, when she suddenly whispered this to me....

"I want you to get me really close to cumming with your tongue.....and then stop just before I do". Um, ok. But what then? "Then you lick me again....and stop just before again". I wasn't quite sure what to say. I asked how I should keep this up for? She wanted me to eventually let her cum....but she wanted to be surprised by it. Eventually, just keep going and finish her off.

So, I did as she pleased. Slow circles with my tongue around her clit, sucking on it gently with my lips, sliding a finger inside. She always warned me when she was really close....."I'm gonna cum....". And I would stop. She had this look on her face that was a weird combination of frustration and euphoria. She was getting off on this orgasm denial. Finally, after what must have been 7 or 8 rounds of this, I kept going....and she exploded. It was actually really hot, she was screaming in pleasure. Holding my head tightly between her legs, fingers in my hair. Until she finally let go, and fell backwards. Spent.

I moved up next to her....I love to see the look on a woman's face up close after she has just had an orgasm. She looked and me and said "that was really nice". Then she started kissing me and rubbing me between my legs. Then started moving downward. I looked down at her and jokingly said, "one round will be enough for me!". She flashed me an evil grin, and said "no, it actually won't". Uh oh.

Conclusion to come....

Orgasm Denial

This is another prelude to the next CL encounter, and thus does not count as a 'tangent'. As always, just mentioning for the sake of being nice and organized.....

So anyway, tonight's topic is indeed orgasm denial. Though the name is fairly self-explanatory, the phrase refers to the act of bringing your partner to the brink of orgasm, and then not allowing it to occur. Repeatedly. From this point, it can go in a couple of different directions, depending on how hard-core the people involved are. For the die hard S&M crowd, orgasm may never be allowed. And the pleasure of the experience is derived from the pain of ultimate denial, and the pleasure of having the power to deny your partner of that elusive orgasm.

Not sure what you think, but that's not exactly up my alley. I much prefer the "softer" version of orgasm denial, sometimes referred to as "edging". In this case, orgasm denial begins in the same manner as described before. Partners take turns rubbing and licking and sucking and everything else, and stopping before each reaches that plateau. But the purpose this time is to create a much more powerful, intense orgasm when it finally does occur. It also creates a delicious mystery, where the person on the receiving end is left to wonder.....is this when I'm going to finally be able to cum? The uncertainty and desperation is part of the turn-on. What is more arousing than seeing your lover in a state where they are just dying for release, and it's solely up to you to give it to them. It's also a very vulnerable position to be in, and requires alot of trust between the people involved. Even if there is an understanding that orgasm will definitely occur, one person is still in a position of pretty significant power. Not exactly the type of thing you'd expect from two people just meeting for the first time after connecting on CL, right?

No, I wouldn't think so either. But, as is often the case, I would be wrong. Stay tuned!