Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Tangent #9: The Effects of Masturbation on Your Sex Life

Hey, I almost was able to get 2 posts out within the span of a week! Aren't you all proud of me!??

Alright, so it's been a while since we had a nice little tangent post. What do you say we explore another sexual topic outside of our main storyline?

Today's topic is masturbation. Specifically, the pros and cons of masturbation as related to the quality of your sex life (I know, I'm just into pros and cons lists for some reason). In the interests of quality research, I polled a sample of male and female friends of mine (about 10 each), and asked them the following questions:

1. How often do you masturbate?
2. Do you have more satisfying orgasms when masturbating or having sex?
3. Do you enjoy sex more when you have recently masturbated more or less?
4. Do you masturbate significantly more often when single, as opposed to when in a relationship?
5. Do you openly discuss your masturbation habits with your partners?

Before we get to the answers given by my sample, here are my answers: 1. 3-4 times per week  2. When Masturbating 3. More 4. No  5. Generally No

My sample's answers, divided by gender:

1. Men: Average of 3.3 times per week; Women: Average of 2.4 times per week (closer than I thought)
2. Men: 6/10 had better orgasms masturbating, 4/10 having sex; Women: 8/10 better orgasms masturbating, 2/10 having sex (damn guys, we need to step it up!)
3. Men: 7/10 enjoyed sex more after recent masturbation; Women: 3/10 enjoyed sex more after recent masturbation (interesting....my theory: men struggle more sexually when too aroused, opposite for women)
4. Men: 9/10 masturbate more when single; Women: 6/10 masturbate more when single (hmmmm...)
5. Men: 6/10 don't discuss masturbation habits with partners; Women: 8/10 don't discuss masturbation habits with partners (hmmmmm again!....do people feel threatened by thinking of their partners masturbating? )

So there you have it. Relatively small sample, I know. But intriguing results. More on this topic to come....

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Encounter #12: Two Women, One Day

(Blogger's note: I know, I lied. It's been a rough couple of months, what can I say??)

I had 'met' (i.e. exchanged emails) two different women on Craig's List. One had responded to a post I wrote, and one (amazingly) had written a post of her own that I responded to. And she wasn't spam!! A rarity in the world of CL, my friends.

Gina and Diane. Both were available only on Saturday of that week. I could have put off one of them to the following week, I suppose. But who the hell wants to wait?? So for the very first time, I did it.....dates with two CL women on the same day.

I tried to at least space them out. Not that I'm an old man or anything, but I can't exactly cum a million times a day like back in the teenage years (ah, the memories). So I wanted to allot as many hours of recovery time as I could. Gina was the evening date, and I didn't want to embarrass myself!

I met Diane for lunch. Afterward, we made our way to a local hotel and had great sex. A little too great....she wanted a round two after we had finished! God damn it, why do round two's only come around at times like these?? I couldn't exactly tell her that I had to save myself for my next date a few hours later, so what could I do? Yes, round two occurred.

After leaving Diane, I was nervous. Guys, you know that feeling you get after have multiple rounds of sex? Like, feeling all good and relieved, but kinda done for the time being? That was how I felt. How was I going to have adequate sex with Gina??? Should I cancel with her and just reschedule? Fuck it, I decided to just give it a shot. What's the worst that could happen? I suck, and she doesn't want to see me again. Oh well, there would be other proverbial fish in the sea.

No food with Gina, she just wanted to meet in the hotel room (damn, dinner would have bought me some more recovery time). I wasn't feeling quite as done as I was earlier, but I didn't exactly have a raging hard-on either. What helped was that Gina was gorgeous. Blonde, curvy, amazing smile. And very sensual. And luckily, very into foreplay. We made out, and slowly explored each other's bodies. I spent alot of extra time going down on her....my rationale being that if I had any performance issues, that at least I could hang my hat on having given her a couple nice orgasms with my tongue. Then she started going down on me. I was fighting off some nerves and intrusive thoughts (thinking during sex is BAD), but the blowjob went well. Again, not super hard, but adequate.

Now would be the true test. As the condom went on, the nerves rose again. Nothing kills a mediocre erection faster than a tight condom. So, my plan was to get it on and get in as quickly as possible. The more lingering, the more chance for issues. I put it on, jumped on her, and put myself inside. Starting fucking her hard and fast. She was one of those types who kind of moans throughout so you can't really tell when they're cumming exactly (see one of my previous posts), so I reached a point where I didn't want to risk going any further. And I came. She might have too, who knows. Overall, I think it was a respectable effort on my part considering.

So yes, I had sex with two CL women on the same day. It hasn't happened since, but I'll always have that memory. Wish I hadn't allowed it to stress me out so much so I could have relaxed and enjoyed myself a little more, but what can you do. In the end, it worked out pretty damn nicely.

By the way, I never saw Diane again, but did have more fun with Gina......

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Two Women in One Day

At long last, a prelude to our next encounter.....

Going into this whole Craig's List conquest, I had a few primary goals. The first, of course, was to have as many fun, no strings attached encounters as possible and create some nice memories. After that, my other biggest goal was to fulfill as many of my own personal sexual fantasies as possible. I think every guy has their own little bucket list of sexual fantasies that they want to indulge in while they can, and I am certainly no different. Most of these fantasies are things that most guys share.....threesomes, semi-dangerous public sex, etc. All good stuff.

I share these fantasies, as well as several others. One of these others is the idea of having sex with two different women on the same day.

Difficult to achieve? Definitely. Particularly when you are single. Probably the most realistic way for people to achieve this is when you are in the course of a relationship/marriage, and then have another encounter on the side on the same day you have sex with your significant other. So it really only entails seeking out one other person. The challenge when you're single is finding TWO separate people. And not just fining two separate people, but two people who are willing to fuck you on the same day! Not easy, my friends. It takes careful planning, both as far as scheduling the encounters, and proactively ensuring that you are 'ready' for both encounters (the fantasy could fast become a nightmare if you are not recovered enough for encounter #2).

So, why do I speak of this as if I have some first-hand knowledge of the situation? Well, do you really need to ask? Details to come.......

When Life Interferes....

So, clearly I lied in my last post. Not intentionally, of course. I truly expected to get right back in the groove of cranking out two posts per week. But alas, life interferes again. Nothing terrible or traumatic (or exciting, unfortunately), just long work hours, physical and mental exhaustion, and the lack of time and mental energy to write. It's interesting, being a relatively new blogger, I always figured that no matter what else was going on in life, there would always be the time and motivation to write. It really seemed like such a low-maintenance hobby. But I underestimated how the desire to write (or at least to write solid, non-half-assed posts) can definitely be diminished by mental fatigue from other aspects of life. Well, lesson learned!

I'd like to promise that there will be no more long posting droughts like this again, but obviously it would be silly to make such promises. For now, I'll just say that I will try my best! Thing are slowing down now, so hopefully there should at least be some improvement in the short term.

Thanks for your patience......next post is coming shortly (I promise!)

Monday, September 20, 2010

Encounter #11: Fun with Porn

(Blogger's note: Sorry for the long delay in posting, things have been crazy busy lately with work and life in general. But I am hoping to get back on track with 2 posts per week again now....thanks for your patience!)

I have to admit.....it was my idea.

I was emailing back and forth with "Amanda" who I had met on CL, and she asked me if there was anything I wanted to do that would be a little 'different' when we hooked up. So I thought about it. What had I not done during any of these encounters yet that could be fun and spice things up a little bit. And then it came to me.....porn! Wouldn't it be fun to have sex with a total stranger, while watching other total strangers have sex?? It sounded good to me, so I suggested it to her. She was game. We made plans.

We arranged to meet at a local motel that often advertised free pornography as one of it's perks. A little sleazy perhaps? Yes. Typically I prefer to meet my encounters in nicer hotels so we can be more comfortable. But the point of this encounter was to be a little different, a little dirtier. So we were both willing to tolerate the tackier accommodations. I mean, honestly, as long as they had a bed, was there really any other major deal-breaker?

The room turned out to be fine. We both had a laugh at the mirrors on the ceiling and heart-shaped designs throughout the room. Clearly, we were not exactly the first couple here just to engage in naughty activities. So, we started out by getting comfortable with each other, making out a little, etc. After the ice had been broken, I went for the tv remote with a smile. Of course, I had to make a crack about how she just wasn't doing it for me so I was going to catch some of Sportscenter....thankfully she had a sense of humor!

I turned on the porn. We laid together and watched. It was pretty hot.....the scenes were very raw and explicit. As we watched, we would slowly touch each other, teasing. We were both getting incredibly turned on, as evidenced from the heavy breathing from both sides of the bed. Was it each other having that effect or the porn? Or both? Did it matter? I tend to think it was both. But in any event, we were soon pleasuring each other orally, and then enjoying several positions of fucking. Of course, there were a few positions that were in the porn where we just looked at each other like, yeah ain't happening! One of the downsides of trying to emulate porn actors....normal people just aren't that flexible. Ah well.

The sex was good, and the porn did spice things up. I had fun. Afterward, she started asking me questions that lead me to further understand the potential downsides of porn (particularly for the insecure). Was she as sexy as the women in the scenes? Did she turn me on more than the scenes did? Was it disappointing that we couldn't do every position? I tried to reassure her, but I could tell she wasn't totally convinced. But what could I do? She was attractive, and I certainly would have had fun without porn. No way to prove that to her though. Looking back, I hope the insecurities don't stand out in her memories as much as the fun of the experience.

Would I suggest this again? Probably not for a NSA encounter like this. Like phone sex and cyber sex, it's a better thing to use in the course of a longer term relationship to add a new wrinkle. Or, of course, for a fun solo experience  ;)

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Porn: Pros and Cons

A little prelude to our next encounter.

So, tonight's topic is porn. Specifically, the pros and cons. Now I need to start be clarifying something right away.......I'm not talking about sitting down by yourself, watching a hot porn, and then having a fantastic masturbatory experience. In that scenario, there are only pros!! No, we are talking about having sex while watching porn. Or using porn as foreplay into actual sex with your partner. Still sounds like mostly good stuff, right? For the most part. But from my experience (including the upcoming encounter), there are a couple of cons to weigh as well.

Without further ado, the pros of cons of sex while watching porn:

Pros

1. Obviously, adds extra excitement and arousal
2. Spices things up; adds variety to your lovemaking (or fucking, however you like to look at it)
3. Give you some new ideas to try
4. Combines two of men's favorite pastimes....tv watching and sex!
5. Any neighbors listening in will think any audio from the porn is just you guys going at it, and it will make you look like you've got the hottest sex life on the block!

Cons

1. Neither of you quite look like those porn stars (the self conscious factor)
2. Neither of you are quite in good enough shape to be doing all of those positions!
3. When used repeatedly, it can become a crutch for an otherwise struggling sex life; can't get turned on without it
4. Creates an unrealistic portrayal of how easy it seems to consistently have amazing sex, while you are in the context of a long term relationship
5. Keeps your focus off of the person you really want to be focused on!

Nit picking there? Perhaps a little. I do lean on the pro side of porn much more, but as we shall see in the next post, those cons can creep in every now and then! Details to come.......

Sunday, August 29, 2010

Tangent #8: Sounds of the Female Orgasm

After being with a fairly decent number of women in my life, one thing that has always fascinated me is the amount of different styles of orgasm that I have encountered with each one. It's really very interesting. Not that I've been with any men, but I've seen enough porn to know that all men basically cum the same. Grunt, grunt, groan, ejaculate. The end. But with ladies, there seem to be so many different varieties. Here are some of the styles I have seen most often:

1. "Quiet cummer"......this is the woman who is not very vocal when she cums. It can be merely a sigh, or a short little groan. You think you're just getting her started, and she's done already!

2. "Non-stop cummer"....this is the opposite type of woman. She is extremely vocal, moaning loudly throughout the entire experience. Sometimes you can't even tell when she's actually having the orgasm, or just moaning loudly in anticipation.

3. "The squealer".....the name pretty much says it all. Instead of moaning, this woman squeals in pleasure. Kind of a hot change of pace, if you ask me.

4. "The screamer".....another fairly self-explanatory one. When the orgasm finally hits, this lady is taking her moaning up to a decibel you can't even imagine! People down the block will know that you are going a nice job satisfying her.

5. "The beggar".......when this woman speaks during sex, it is typically to plead with you in some way. "Please...don't stop". "Harder.....faster.....". "I'm so close, please keep going". "Oh God....please...".  These are the things you hear leading into her orgasm. Very arousing.

6. "Painful cummer".....this is the woman that actually looks like she is in physical pain when she's cumming. I was with one such woman where I actually became concerned that I was hurting her as she was having an orgasm, but she just got mad at me for slowing down.

7. "The faker".....unfortunately, we all know this woman. Instead of clearly communicating what she wants to you and taking time to get there, she 'protects your ego' and expedites things by becoming overly dramatic.

8. "Crying cummer"....yep, this is the woman who cries during/after an orgasm. I've never been that overcome with emotion while cumming, but it must be pretty cool to have such a combination of physical and emotional pleasure.

For any ladies reading, I am curious which category you would fit into??

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Encounter #10: Looks Aren't Everything

I didn't ask to see her picture, as I usually don't.

I didn't even ask for a description of what she looked like.....our plans materialized so quickly, that I didn't even get a chance to get into such details with her. I was willing to take a chance.

We were meeting at a nice hotel. I arrived first and got the room. And then waited for her.

20 minutes later she arrived with a knock on the door. I opened the door to reveal her. She was.....not exactly my type. Very skinny (I prefer curvier women). Very short hair (I prefer longer hair). Very tall (I prefer women of smaller to average height). In short.....I wasn't very attracted to her.

She walked in the room. She looked at me with a mischievous look. Without saying a word, she removed her blouse. And then her skirt. She had very sexy, lacy undergarments. Silently, she moved toward me. Kneeling before me. Unzipping me. Pulling down my pants. Taking me in her mouth.....sucking expertly.

Then leading me to the bed. Allowing me to kiss her....everywhere. Responding to my every touch with deep sighs and sexy moans. Then she turned me on back, and got on top of me. Slid me inside her. And began riding me like her life depended on it. She felt amazing. Harder and faster, just at the right times....she knew what she was doing.

I turned her over and began fucking her missionary style. She was spread wide, wet, and guiding my hips at the speed she liked. We both moaned faster.....approaching the same place at the same time.

We came together. It was an incredibly intense, powerful orgasm. I can't even say I remember what happened afterward. We may have made some small talk before we parted ways. I have not seen her again since. Even if I had wanted to, she made it clear initially that she was looking for a one-time experience.

Looking back, I still can't say I was very attracted to her. Not that she was horribly unattractive or anything, but just not my cup of tea. But she was seductive. And sensual. And knew what she was doing in bed. And I enjoyed every minute with her.

Looks aren't everything.

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Sex Without Attraction

As we segue into our next encounter, I start by posing this question: what happens when you are looking for someone to hook up with (NSA style), find someone, agree to meet them without seeing a picture, and then find that you're not really attracted to them? Can sex be really good without attraction?

Now, I'm sure many people are just saying, "well, why the hell would you not want to see what the person looks like beforehand to avoid this situation altogether??". Fair point, my friends. At least for me, I have arranged to meet with several people without seeing a picture first. Why? Because it adds to the excitement level. Creates an air of mystery. Not knowing exactly what to expect heightens your senses significantly, and can create nicely elevated arousal levels.

Are there some precautions to be taken in this type of scenario? Of course. I always ask potential encounters to describe themselves to me. I enjoy hearing their descriptions and imaging what they might look like. Getting a mental image can be alot more fun than just seeing a picture and eliminating all of the mystery. And of course, if someone says they are 500 pounds and missing half their teeth, we can safely avoid an awkward situation. Though many people tend to stretch the truth a little bit when describing themselves, I've found that most people are at least in the ballpark.

Anyway, the question still remains. You've chatted with someone. Gotten a description of them that sounds promising. Agreed to meet them somewhere private. And when you see them.....you're just not finding them very attractive. Not necessarily repulsive, like our 500 pound friend with no teeth, but just not quite your cup of tea. You don't even have the scenario that everyone experiences where you're initially not attracted to someone, and then you get to know them and get closer emotionally to them, and then the physical attraction seems to develop later. Sorry, you're just meeting the person now!

Can sex still be good with someone you're not immediately attracted to? Can it be really good?

YES IT CAN! Stay tuned......

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Phone/Cyber Sex Challenge: Wrap-Up

The phone/cyber sex challenge has concluded. Here is a summary of the results.

As I expected, there were not a large amount of people brave enough to take me up on the challenge (despite many vehement arguments against my post claiming both activities to be overrated). Though this was not shocking, it did not provide a significant amount of chances for my mind to be changed. Anyway, here are the results....of course, each individual will remain anonymous.

Total number of responses received: 6
Total number of people for phone sex: 2
Total number of people for cyber sex: 4
Total number of people actually following through on phone sex: 1
Total number of people actually following through on cyber sex: 3

So overall, a total of 4 real contestants. The phone sex contestant was very anxious during our session. It was enjoyable, but went fairly quickly. She did have a sexy voice though, despite her nerves. Cyber contestant #1 was not very good, I'm afraid to say. Very un-descriptive and rushed. Though she did self-identify this as we went along. I think she was just kind of bored and horny, so she figured that she would play the game. Can't fault her for that.

Cyber contestant #2, a fellow blogger, was MUCH better. Very erotic, writes very well, and did an excellent job. Though we both enjoyed the session, here was the funny part.....she thought cyber/phone sex was overrated too! And despite the fact that we both had fun, we both came away with the same conclusion.....we were right! Not that the session wasn't good, but it just left us wanting each other for real! And sadly, due to lack of proximity, that just wasn't in the cards.

Cyber contestant #3 was interesting....she LOVED cyber sex, and was convinced to show me that it was the best thing since sliced bread. Was she good? Yes. Did she convince me? No. Why not? She had me thinking about cyber contestant #2 the entire time, and how badly I wanted to experience my session with her in real life!

Conclusions:
1. Most enjoyable experience: Cyber contestant #2
2. Change in opinion of either phone or cyber sex: No
3. Why no change of opinion: Simply because either experience is going to lead to one of two outcomes: 1) it's going to be somewhat awkward and not so great, or 2) it's going to be really good, and you're just going to want to fuck the person for real!!!
4. When is cyber/phone sex good: In the context of a longer term relationship, where it can be used to add some spice when people are apart....and it is guaranteed they will be fucking in person again soon!

Ok, I think I've belabored this topic enough now. We will move on with our story shortly.

Sunday, August 8, 2010

Encounter #9: Part 2

(Note: For purposes of this blog, an "encounter" refers to a particular person I hooked up with at some point. Some people were seen multiple times, but I am not counting each instance as a separate encounter here. Like today, I plan to write about follow-up encounters only when there is something noteworthy....can't imagine anyone would just want a post written purely to describe more sex, right???)

So, as we left off, I just had a lovely encounter with our married friend, Kim. She invited me to meet her again, and I agreed. Although I do like the one and done encounters, it is sometimes fun to see someone multiple times when we really seem to click well. I was still a little uneasy about her being married, particularly since seemed pretty emotional and upset about the way her marriage was unraveling. There was potential for messiness, but I forged ahead nonetheless.

We met again the following week.....twice. The sex was great again both times. She was sensual and vocal, and even a little kinky! The post-sex discussion revolved around her describing the problems in her marriage. Both times she became emotional and started crying. I felt very badly for her and the terrible situation she was in (her husband sounded like a complete dick). She told me how nice it was to be with someone who appreciated her and treated her well, and wondered why her husband could not do the same. It felt good to hear that, though it was sad that her she felt trapped in such an unhappy life. She loved her son, and wouldn't hurt him by going through a painful divorce process. So she was going to stick it out, no matter how miserable she became. And trust me, she was miserable.

A few days after I saw her for the third time, she emailed me. She told me that despite the misery her husband was putting her through, she felt unbearable guilt about straying from her marriage. She had told her husband about seeing me. He was of course enraged, though she assured me that she would not give him any specific information about me (not that she really had much to give, aside from the email address I was writing her on). She told me she was sorry, but that she had made a mistake, and could not see me again. That was the last I ever heard from her.

I felt terrible for her. From what she described of her husband, he wouldn't be the type to leave her for cheating....he was too insecure himself. He would probably just use it as more reason to treat her like shit. And it made me angry, because without going into detail, she had plenty of justification to be cheating on him. But she was very conservative with a religious background, and couldn't keep doing it. I hope she finds the courage to leave him eventually.

I was actually a little nervous for a while after this....kept expecting her psycho husband to be waiting for me in a dark alley somewhere. But luckily, it did not occur. Perhaps now though you understand my nervousness about meeting married women for "NSA" encounters. You never know when there might be some strings!

You're probably assuming this was the last encounter I had with a married woman, right? I thought it would be too....but I was later convinced otherwise. With much better results. But we'll get to that story soon enough!

Friday, August 6, 2010

Encounter #9: Strings Attached?

It started with a post I made offering a sensual massage.

She was the first person to respond. And she responded quickly....within about 15 minutes of the post being published. She seemed very eager, which of course was a good sign.

Her name was Kim. She was in her mid-30's, lived within about a 20 minute drive of where I live. She told me that she had blond hair, green eyes, and stood about 5'5.

And she was married. With a 6 year old son.

When she threw that in, the warning bells started going off in my head. All the potential risks that I described in my previous post starting rushing into my mind. The angry husband. The baggage. The risk of her unhappiness in her marriage (which she confirmed) leading her to want more than just a casual experience with me. It was alot to process. Perhaps if I was also married, I might have been able to rationalize it as an even playing field. But being single, that was certainly not the case. I thought about it long and hard, until finally making a decision. I was going to go for it.  You only live once, have to take some risks every now and then. She sounded sexy and eager. I was going to give it a shot.

We met two days later. She was as attractive as she described. I gave her a long, full-body massage. Teasing her between her legs as my fingers brushed by repeatedly. That led to me going down on her. Which led to her going down on me. Which led to us fucking. (Have I finally convinced everyone about the gateway potential of the massage??). Each step of the way was passionate, erotic, and extremely pleasurable. As we laid in bed together afterward, I was thinking to myself that I had made the right decision. It was one of the most fun encounters I have had so far, if not the most fun. What was I worrying about?

Then she said, "when can we do this again"? And that was when the warning bells started again. She wanted more than a one time experience. But how much more?

I would agree to see her again the following week to find out.....

Sunday, August 1, 2010

Pros and Cons of Being with a Married Woman

This post is a segue into my next CL encounter.....

As I had mentioned, I am a single guy. Never have been married (almost was.....but that is a story for another day). So, as you might expect, I typically seek out single women to have my fun experiences with. Not overly shocking so far, right? Well, my experiences with CL have opened my eyes to an interesting reality......there are a pretty good amount of married women out there who are looking for encounters on the side. Some are dissatisfied with their sex lives at home, some are looking for an emotional need to be met, and some are just feeling neglected in general. I should also note that some are in an open marriage where such experiences are accepted and encouraged, though we will get more into that in a later encounter. I know, sorry for all the teasing today. But one story at a time!

Anyway, perhaps I am naive, but I found this all to be pretty surprising. I had kinda assumed that married MEN would be the ones prowling a site like CL for extramarital action. But apparently a good amount of married women are doing the same thing. So with that being the case, before we get to our next story, let's just examine the pros and cons of a single guy hooking up with a married woman:

PROS: 
1. These women are certainly looking for sex without strings!
2. Less worry about expectations for longer term relationships.
3. Many married women in this situation are very sexually frustrated, which makes it all the more exciting to be the one to be able to finally meet their sexual needs!
4. MILFs can be pretty hot!
5. Greater chance to have fun with someone who might have less experience experimenting with different things, which adds extra excitement and intensity.

CONS:
1. Big, angry husbands coming after me.
2. Possibly getting caught up in a messy situation if divorce is forthcoming.
3. Extra stress with the increased need to be ultra discrete (though this could be kind of a turn on too, so I guess it can be a pro or con).
4. The "I want to leave my husband and run away with you" potential. Perhaps not overly likely, but always a thought in the back of your head.
5. The "what if I really did fall for this woman and there is no shot for anything beyond this" potential. Again, may not be extremely likely, but who knows?

So there are the arguments both ways. We'll get into the story of my related encounter next time!

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Update: Phone/Cyber Sex Challenge

Just a quick update on the phone/cybersex challenge. So far, only two brave souls have contacted me. One seems very interested in convincing me how good cyber sex can be, while the other seems tentative about giving me a mind-blowing session of phone sex. Not sure if she will have the guts to give it a shot, but we'll see. Contestant #1 seems like a definite go though, so we'll see how she does in our cyber session.

After all the private messages I received last time, I expected more confident women to take me up on this challenge! There's still time to prove me wrong though, so shoot me an email. No need to be shy  :)

Blog recommendation for the day: check out Mina's (Secret Desire) latest......you'll need a cold shower afterward.

Saturday, July 24, 2010

Encounter #8: Not So Fast.....Part 2

So, where did we leave off?

Ah yes. I had just brought this lovely lady to a powerful orgasm with my tongue, after bringing her right to the edge over and over again. And now she was saying it was my turn. I was feeling a little apprehensive.

She started by very slowly stroking me, up and down. Not fast enough to get me off, but just enough speed to feel quite good. She kissed me as she stroked. It felt wonderful. As she began speeding up with her hand, I tried to brace myself, knowing what was coming (or not coming!). But, as all guys know, trying too hard not to cum just accomplishes the opposite. So it was getting me there faster. I was so close....it felt so good....and then.....yes...she stopped. Ahh damn!

It was very frustrating, yet it did excite me on some level. Especially when she put me inside her mouth after I had a moment to calm down a little. Sucking me slowing. Up and down. Using her hand to stroke gently as she sucked. Again, I was getting there quickly. She was too good. I felt those initial quivers. The waves building within me. And she stopped.....looking at me with a devilish grin.

I was dying. I had to cum, and was aroused out of my mind. If she didn't do something quickly, I was going to go crazy. Fortunately, she did. She quickly pulled out a condom, and put it on me. Then jumped on top of me, and began riding me. No fooling around or teasing this time....she rode me hard and fast. I had no chance of lasting and erupted in a mind-blowing orgasm. Wow.

I have mixed memories of this encounter. It was incredibly intense and arousing, though I can still almost feel the torturous frustration from that day. So, do I recommend orgasm denial and edging? I would say yes, but on a limited basis. Too much of that would be enough to drive anyone insane! Even if it is insane in kind of a good way......

Friday, July 23, 2010

Phone/Cyber Sex Challenge

After my post where I claimed phone sex and cyber sex to be vastly overrated, I actually got a few private messages telling me how wrong I was. Claiming how hot and exciting either could be if I was doing it with the right person. Each email suggested (subtly and not so subtly in some cases) that if the phone and/or cyber sex had taken place with THEM, that I'd be singing a different tune. I just didn't know what I was missing!

Fair enough. In response to these messages I received, I would like to put out a challenge. A challenge to any reader who thinks I am wrong about the quality of phone and cyber sex, and wants to prove me wrong. The challenge is simple....engage me in a steamy session of phone or cyber sex (your choice). Prove to me that I was way off, and just missing out on the experience with the right person. The first person who seriously makes the experience so stimulating that it makes my opinion waver will get a post devoted to them and how they pulled off the impossible. I will admit I was wrong, and praise this individual to the high heavens for making me see the light.

Let's see if any of my previous private messengers (or anyone else) is brave enough to give it a try. Just email me if you are interested (link in my profile). Good luck!

For everyone else, we'll be back to our regularly scheduled CL stories next post.

Monday, July 19, 2010

Tangent #7: Most Desirable Bloggers

If you're like me, you fall into one of the following categories:  1. You write a sex-related blog.  2. You enjoy reading sex-related blogs.  3. You write a sex-related blog AND enjoy reading other sex-related blogs.  4. You just like sex in general.

So it's established, we're all pretty much in the same boat. I don't know about everyone else, but my mind often wanders and fantasizes when I read other blogs. Female blogs primarily, of course (no offense to Riff and others....I enjoy several male blogs as well, just not in quite the same way we are discussing today). But in those several female blogs I read consistently, I often get caught up in the stories. Wonder what it would be like to actually be with that person in the scenario they are describing. Think about how compatible we might be. What it might be like to touch them. Of course, those who post sexy little teaser pics just make this all the more easy! As do those who write in a certain way that just sucks you in.

With all that being said, here are my top 5 most desirable bloggers (in no particular order). All five can be found on my blog list to the bottom right of this post:

1. Secretly Naughty: Sexy stories? Check. Enticing pictures? Check. Appealing writing style? Double check. The verdict? Very desirable!

2. Gwen ("Sweetly Unassuming"): Gwen is a new blogger, just getting her blog off the ground. The foundation she has set is very engaging....makes me want to hear more about her story. I feel like I can relate to some of her general experiences already. And she just has a sexy vibe about her....

3. Sadie ("Sexy Sadie's Stories....."): Love the format of her confessions. Love the way she writes. Love the absolutely gorgeous pictures. Extremely desirable.

4. Kiera ("My Secret Hobby"): Kiera is really intriguing. Even moving past the seductive pictures on her site.....what blog with the subtitle "The Pursuit of Cock" can possible be bad?? And it isn't, believe. Also love the short, to the point posts (e.g., "I've been a bad horny girl. Punish me, please". The end). I desire Kiera.

5. Joanna Cake ("Having My Cake and Eating it Too): First of all, the cake theme is done very cleverly throughout the blog. Secondly, Joanna does a great job talking about a variety of diverse, interesting topics in her blog. But what makes her extra desirable? She offers readers a chance to order a recording of her reading one of her sexy posts in her assuredly sexy voice. How can you beat that??

Pretty desirable group of ladies there guys, trust me. Highly recommend all of their blogs.

Friday, July 16, 2010

Encounter #8: Not So Fast.....Part 1

She had responded to the oral sex post. She was definitely interested in receiving.....but.....she was also interested in giving! It was the first response I had gotten to my "oral sex for you" posts, where the woman actually said in her email that she would be willing to reciprocate. I was excited.

Then she wrote that, although she would reciprocate, there might be a little 'twist'. Hmmm, a twist. I wondered what she meant. Did she want to suck some chocolate syrup off of my penis or something? That would be a nice twist! Well, that wasn't exactly what she had in mind.

We got together in a nice local motel a few days after exchanging emails. She was definitely cute....short, but nice and curvy with dark hair and eyes. After some initial chit chat, we began kissing. She was a very good kisser, which is an underappreciated skill these days. We slowly undressed, exploring each other's bodies with our fingers and mouths. She had wonderful, smooth skin that was amazing to touch. I was getting ready to make my descent to her happy place, when she suddenly whispered this to me....

"I want you to get me really close to cumming with your tongue.....and then stop just before I do". Um, ok. But what then? "Then you lick me again....and stop just before again". I wasn't quite sure what to say. I asked how I should keep this up for? She wanted me to eventually let her cum....but she wanted to be surprised by it. Eventually, just keep going and finish her off.

So, I did as she pleased. Slow circles with my tongue around her clit, sucking on it gently with my lips, sliding a finger inside. She always warned me when she was really close....."I'm gonna cum....". And I would stop. She had this look on her face that was a weird combination of frustration and euphoria. She was getting off on this orgasm denial. Finally, after what must have been 7 or 8 rounds of this, I kept going....and she exploded. It was actually really hot, she was screaming in pleasure. Holding my head tightly between her legs, fingers in my hair. Until she finally let go, and fell backwards. Spent.

I moved up next to her....I love to see the look on a woman's face up close after she has just had an orgasm. She looked and me and said "that was really nice". Then she started kissing me and rubbing me between my legs. Then started moving downward. I looked down at her and jokingly said, "one round will be enough for me!". She flashed me an evil grin, and said "no, it actually won't". Uh oh.

Conclusion to come....

Monday, July 12, 2010

Orgasm Denial

This is another prelude to the next CL encounter, and thus does not count as a 'tangent'. As always, just mentioning for the sake of being nice and organized.....

So anyway, tonight's topic is indeed orgasm denial. Though the name is fairly self-explanatory, the phrase refers to the act of bringing your partner to the brink of orgasm, and then not allowing it to occur. Repeatedly. From this point, it can go in a couple of different directions, depending on how hard-core the people involved are. For the die hard S&M crowd, orgasm may never be allowed. And the pleasure of the experience is derived from the pain of ultimate denial, and the pleasure of having the power to deny your partner of that elusive orgasm.

Not sure what you think, but that's not exactly up my alley. I much prefer the "softer" version of orgasm denial, sometimes referred to as "edging". In this case, orgasm denial begins in the same manner as described before. Partners take turns rubbing and licking and sucking and everything else, and stopping before each reaches that plateau. But the purpose this time is to create a much more powerful, intense orgasm when it finally does occur. It also creates a delicious mystery, where the person on the receiving end is left to wonder.....is this when I'm going to finally be able to cum? The uncertainty and desperation is part of the turn-on. What is more arousing than seeing your lover in a state where they are just dying for release, and it's solely up to you to give it to them. It's also a very vulnerable position to be in, and requires alot of trust between the people involved. Even if there is an understanding that orgasm will definitely occur, one person is still in a position of pretty significant power. Not exactly the type of thing you'd expect from two people just meeting for the first time after connecting on CL, right?

No, I wouldn't think so either. But, as is often the case, I would be wrong. Stay tuned!

Saturday, July 10, 2010

Tangent #6: Hot and Bothered

I'm having one of those frustrating Saturday nights tonight.

You know the type of Saturday night I am talking about. You're alone (literally or figuratively). Your body is tingling with arousal and sexual desire from head to toe. It seems like there is nothing else in the world besides you and your desperate longing for somebody's touch. One of those nights where masturbation just isn't enough. You need that feeling of skin on skin, you need to hear the moans of someone else reflecting the pleasure that you are also feeling.

Sounds good so far, right? But here comes the frustrating part.....there is no one to fill this need for me tonight. The woman I have been casually seeing recently is not around. And I even went so far as to make a couple of calls to some women from the past that I still hook up with from time to time (one of which was a CL girl, though we haven't gotten to her story yet). But alas, they were not available.

Don't get me wrong, the bachelor lifestyle has its perks. Significant perks, in fact. But this is a big downside. To feel this way tonight, and not have a significant other to indulge in these desires, is borderline torture. I'm so turned on that I might even be willing go for phone/cyber sex tonight! Yes, the need is that strong.

I have so many fantasies running through my mind right now that it's hard to even keep track. For tonight though, they seem destined to remain fantasies. Unfulfilled desires.

I'm sure everyone has nights like this. Doesn't it suck?

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Encounters #6 and #7: No Touching Allowed

Up to this point, I think I had been handling my CL posts pretty well. The posts were well-written, suggestive without being offensive, focused on her pleasure as opposed to mine.....all good stuff. And I had been getting pretty good results, overall.

But as such things usually go, it was only a matter of time before I was just a little too slick for my own good. As I mentioned in my last post, my thought process was that since my massage posts so were so successful, there had to be other 'gateway' activities I could introduce to get even more responses. To recap, gateway activities are things like massages that are innocent seeming and don't scare people away, but set the right mood for things to eventually progress to naughtier activities.

So, what other gateways could I create. Hmmmm. Then it came to me. What about phone sex?? Or cyber sex?? Safe, anonymous, non-threatening. Yet still enjoyable. Yes, that fits the criteria for gateway activities! I It was decided.....I immediately created new posts, highlighting cyber sex and phone sex respectively (in separate posts of course, to not alienate people only interested in one or the other).

The initial returns were great. Several responses. A few non-starters, as always, but also a few legitimately interested ladies. Two in particular....one answering my phone sex post, and the other my cyber sex post.

To make a long story short, I eventually began engaging in the two respective activities with both ladies. Both were kinda fun the first time. A little less fun the next time. Kinda redundant the third time. You get the idea. After the third time with each person, I said to myself, ok, it's time to strike. The gateway has been established, and it's now time to cross over!

Not so fast. Neither had any interest in taking things to an in-person level. They were perfectly content with these anonymous, masturbatory sessions. They were both too nervous to meet in person, for different reasons (one married, one self-conscious). But they were more than happy to continue on with the calls and emails/IMs. I was not though, and told them I was going to move on.

Lessons learned. First, cyber sex and phone sex are overrated, if not part of a bigger, physically involved relationship. Second, not all gateways actually lead to something better. Sometimes the gateway is just the end of the road!

It was time to regroup.

Saturday, July 3, 2010

Are Cybersex and Phone Sex Overrated?

This is another post that doesn't qualify as a "tangent", since it will segue us into Encounter #6. Just in case anyone was wondering!

So, we have already discussed how shower sex is vastly overrated. I now propose two more forms of "sex" (if they really even qualify) that are highly overrated: Cybersex and Phone Sex.

Now to be fair, like shower sex, Cybersex and Phone Sex both sound pretty good in theory. It seems like it would be exciting to email naughty messages back and forth while both parties pleasure themselves. And it seems like it would be even hotter to hear someone's moans over the phone as they touch themselves while listening to your moans as you do the same. They both actually sound quite stimulating!

This is the first problem. For me, anyway. It's masturbation. You're getting yourself off. The other person is getting themselves off. You can't see them or touch them. As far as the visual (sort of) and audio stimulation received from Cyber and Phone Sex respectively.....I can accomplish that with porn. And at least porn gives me a good visual to work with.

And here's the bigger problem....Cybersex and Phone Sex are ultimately a tease. It just makes you want physical contact with the person more. When you often can't have it. Now, might this be fun once in a while during the course of a long term relationship, maybe when one person is away on business while the other is home? Of course! That is not the type of scenario that I'm talking about here though. I'm talking about meeting new people, wanting to have hot, in-person sex with them, but they cannot move past the "safety" and anonymity of cyber or phone encounters. It's as frustrating as hell, and as I've found, more common that you might think. It's like hearing the steak sizzle on the grill, smelling the delicious aroma, and then never getting to taste it. What's the point??

As you will soon learn, I only have myself to blame for getting stuck in some of these scenarios. Remember when we said a good massage was like a gateway drug, and always leads to better things? Well, I thought that perhaps the same principle might apply if I used Cyber/Phone Sex as the selling point on my Craig's List posts.

I was wrong. Details to come......

Thursday, July 1, 2010

Tangent #5: Sex Stats

For whatever reason, I enjoy reading about sexual statistics. I guess everyone wants to get a sense of how they stack up against everyone else, and how their relationship fares in comparison to others, right?

Well in the spirit of such curiosity, I present the results of the most current research I could find on random sexual statistics and averages. Some interesting stuff here....


1. Average erect penis length: 6 inches (phew)

2. Average clitoris length: 1 inch (seems a tad high, from my experience)

3. Average person has sex 127 times per year (about once every 3 days....a little more than I would have expected)

4. 48% of women polled have admitted to faking an orgasm ('admitted' being the key word)

5. Unmarried couples living together have sex 147 times per year on average. Married couples....98 times per year (why do people get married???)

6. Average calories burned during 30 minutes of sex: 200  (who needs the gym?)

7. Percent of people who have had sex with a co-worker: 20% (definitely low)

8. Percent of people satisfied with their sex life: 48% (less than half......kinda sad.....)

9. Percent of women reaching orgasm through intercourse: 45%  Through oral sex: 80%  (seems close)

10. 25% of people have had 1 sexual partner......21% of people have had 10 or more (thank goodness I'm in the 2nd group! those poor 25%)

Monday, June 28, 2010

Encounter #5: Smile for the Camera!

Ok, so here is the full story of the videotaping chick.

I had been sending out more posts on CL along the same lines, trying to focus on approaches where I was making it clear that my first priority was her pleasure (which is not entirely untrue....I'm definitely the type that gets turned on by pleasuring others). After encounter #4, I actually had a fairly lengthy drought before a got a response that led to something. But finally I got a response from "Moviechick". I guess the name should have probably clued me in to her intentions!

Anyway, Moviechick writes me and says that she liked my post, and would love for me to pleasure her. Boo yah!! But wait....she ends her response with a Riff Dog-like cliffhanger. "There is one twist that I'd like to add to our activities, if you're brave enough.....". And the email ends there.

So of course I have to know what the hell she's referring to, and write her back immediately. What twist?? Maybe another girl she wants to bring along for a threesome?? Yeah, I know I kinda killed the suspense of this with my previous post, but she replies by saying "I want to record our time together". Um.....ok. Then she also goes into how she would make a copy for me, and make sure to give me verifiable contact information, and how she would never show it to anyone, etc. She ends by saying, "it will be really fun.....trust me!".

Trust her. Some random chick (hopefully a chick, who knows??) who is emailing me in response to a sex post on CL. Didn't exactly give me the most comfortable feeling. So I told her I would  sleep on it, and get back to her the next day with my answer.

I was completely torn. I kept having images of the video turning up on Redtube and every other sex-related video sharing site out there. I could envision some secretly perverted relative seeing the video and being like "Holy shit, that's him!!!!!". Not good thoughts. Obviously if I was married or in a serious relationship at the time, I wouldn't even give it a thought. But at least I didn't have those factors to worry about.

Ultimately I said to myself, fuck it, you only live once. Take a chance. And it would be pretty damn hot....I mean, what woman actually initiates making a video like this? So I told her yes. We made plans for a few days later.

When I arrived at the room, she was waiting. And she was really good looking. Red hair, blue eyes, really curvy body. Yum. She had the video camera out, and showed me where she wanted to put it. She said, "just forget it's there and get lost in the moment".

Which was easier said than done. The sex was pretty good. She gave great oral, was very receptive to being orally pleasured, and was more than happy to fuck as well! (which was a nice change, since oral had been the primary activity on the other encounters to this point). Did the camera make it more exciting? No, not at the time. It made me self conscious. I would keep trying to maneuver myself to avoid my face being in direct sight of the camera. I sped things along faster than I normally go. Good sex that might have been great sex is probably the best way to describe.

The good news? As far as I can tell, the video hasn't shown up on sex sites yet that I know of (and believe me, I've looked....everywhere!). And she did give me my own copy. Which I watch pretty often. And honestly....it's hot. I love watching it. Amazing masturbation material. Like the gift that keeps on giving.

No regrets. Not yet, anyway....I'm sure there are plenty of websites I haven't checked yet!

Friday, June 25, 2010

Tangent #4: Videotaping worth the risk?

This isn't really a complete tangent, since it actually leads into my next CL encounter. But before getting into all of those details, I wanted to pose this question.

To make a long story short (for now, anyway), I met someone on CL who was very into videotaping their sexual encounters. Which was interesting and pretty hot, since I think it is typically guys that are more into recording their conquests for future viewing. But anyway, I guess she was just an exception this this rule.

When presenting this to me, she told me that she would give me a copy of the recording too, so I could reminisce about the experience with her (more details in the next post, but she made it clear she was looking for a one-time encounter with me). She was willing to give me enough verifiable information where I could pretty easily track her down afterward if needed....her sign of good faith, I suppose.

I'll let you know if I chose to participate shortly. But what do you think about this scenario, in general? Videotaping sex can be fairly dangerous even in the context of a long term relationship, nevermind a one-night stand. Is it worth taking a chance? Would it be more worth the risk for the man (i.e., is it much less likely a woman would be posting the video online for the world to see?). Granted, being single, I would be at much less risk than someone who is married or otherwise involved.

So exciting, yet so dangerous. Worth the risk?

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Is Shower Sex Overrated?

Back to our regular story next time, but for tonight, I must pose the above question.

I suppose I should provide some context, right? Ok. Well, I had sex tonight. It wasn't someone I met through CL or a related site, so I feel okay spoiling the story now. But anyway, she looooves having sex in the shower. So we did it. And I have to admit....I'm just not crazy about shower sex!

By the time it was over, my knees hurt from kneeling in the tub to eat her for like 20 minutes. My arms hurt from holding her up against the side of the shower while fucking her. My legs hurt from.... fucking standing alot, I guess. And it took both of us forever to cum. Oh, and my bathroom floor was flooded. Good times!

So, there are a few possibilities. I could just be badly out of shape (very possible). I might not be doing it in the most effective, comfortable manner. I might be too lazy (again, possible). Or maybe, just maybe, shower sex is simply overrated.....better in theory then in actual execution.

Am I way off base here? And do I just continue to suck it up for this shower sex lover that I'm fucking?

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Encounter #4: Fantasy Fulfilled

The majority of posts I had been making on CL around this time were reasonable posts, trying to focus on the more likely approaches to getting responses (offering massages, etc).

But at the same time, I couldn't resist making posts that were much less likely to get a response. Requests which asked a total stranger to put their trust in me in a completely irrational way. Basically, I was trying to get one of my deepest fantasises fulfilled. And it took forever to even get a brave response. But the first response I finally got was from a woman named Marie. She was turned on by my idea, and willing to take the risk. We made plans. My fantasy unfolded...

I entered the room. She is waiting for me. Naked. Laying on the bed. She cannot see me.....she is blindfolded. She has never seen me before this, and never will again. As she lays there blind to me, I crawl up beside her. Begin softly kissing her lips. Slowing moving down her neck with slow, deliberate kisses. Down her chest, circling her nipples now with my tongue. Taking them between my lips and sucking gently. Then the slow trail of my lips down her stomach......skipping past her area of desire, and focusing on her sexy thighs. Kissing them slowly up and down. Building her desire. Then, I finally move back up. Circling the outside of her pussy with my tongue. Making soft circles around her clit with my tongue now. Gently licking up and down the length of her wetness. A little faster now. My tongue pressing more directly into her clit....licking up and down, side to side. Slipping a finger inside her, I am caressing her g-spot. Taking her clit between my lips and gently sucking at the same time. Fingering her faster and harder. Sucking down, shaking my mouth from side to side....creating vibrations all over her clit. Finally, she explodes. Moaning my name loudly. Grabbing the sheets of the bed into the balls of her fist. Her face and chest flushed from the pleasure received from this unseen stranger.

I kissed her once more on the lips. Whispered two words into her ear...."thank you". And then I left her. Forever. She'll just remember me as the faceless stranger who made her cum with my mouth and finger. Perhaps she'll wonder who I really was. I'll never forget her.

Fantasy fulfilled.

Sunday, June 13, 2010

Tangent #3: First Orgasm Ever

I've had alot of orgasms in my life. I mean....alot. Thousands? Who knows the exact number. You have to figure an average of about one orgasm per day (factoring in the occasional orgasm-less day and the occasional multi-orgasm day), since I was about 13 years old. Well, maybe a little less at 13 and a little more in some of the later years. But whatever, you get the idea. So basically, we're talking about an average of 365 orgasms a year over the past 19 years. Hold on, time to get the calculator....6935 orgasms?? Holy shit, how is my prostate still functioning?

Anyway, whatever the exact number, it's very high. I feel safe in assuming that anyone reading a blog like this is in a similar position.

So with that many orgasms, do you ever reflect back on orgasm #1? Where it all began, the first of thousands? I sometimes do, and with good reason. It wasn't exactly a routine experience by any means. I will share....

I was in my early teens. I had been watching porn and masturbating for many months, but had not been able to reach completion. Mostly because I had no idea what I was doing of course, a far cry from the masturbatory expertise we all acquire with age. And then, finally, it happened (and I so clearly remember the scene I was watching at the time too...nice, sensual lesbian scene). That now familiar feeling of building up to cumming felt almost scary. What the hell was happening to me?? And when it finally arrived, the feeling was overwhelming. I actually thought I was having a heart attack or something. As soon as it was over, I literally jumped out of my seat.....and promptly passed out, slamming my head against a nearby table as I fell. Then I had the fun of trying explaining the ridiculous bump on my head to everyone. But needless to say, it was an experience I will never forget. I've had some amazing orgasms over the years, but that was where it all began.

I've asked others about their first orgasmic experience as well. Interestingly, some recall similarly interesting stories, while some have no recollection at all.

Do you still remember your first?

Friday, June 11, 2010

Encounter #3: You Get What You (Don't) Pay For

Remember when I was introducing the blog, and I mentioned how I preferred using CL instead of pay sites because I didn't feel that I had to pay anything to hook up with someone? Well, I still feel that way, goddamnit. BUT......

Clearly, there is a significant risk taken when you hook up with some through a site like CL. It's not a site like Ashley Madison, for example, where most people there are in a similar circumstance, and you can browse pictures and profiles, etc. No....in the free land of CL, you just post, get responses, and hope you wind up with someone relatively sane (and attractive, of course). And you often have no idea until you meet them.

So, I had done my massage post again (it really works guys, trust me). And another lady was interested in receiving my services. We'll call her "UGH!" Now, something seemed off when I was emailing her. UGH! gave vague, avoidant responses to any questions I asked about herself. Her writing skills were atrocious (a pet peeve of mine). And it just felt wrong overall for some reason. So did I trust my instincts, take a pass, and wait to find someone else? Of course not, I have a penis making my decisions. And penises are not smart.

UGH! knocked on the hotel door. I nervously answered. I opened....she was not easy on the eyes (trying to be respectful). But that was only the beginning. I tried to get her ready for the massage (again, the penis trudging ahead despite ridiculous circumstances). But she wanted to....talk. Talk about her failing marriage. Her low self-esteem. How she missed out on the man she really wanted to be with (we'll call him, "luckiest son of a bitch in the world"). And....she was bawling, hysterically.

I don't want to sound insensitive.....but I'm not a therapist. No interest in being one. And UGH! clearly needed one...badly. I'm just a guy looking to give a massage which segues into hot sex! The more she ranted on, the more clearly unstable she seemed. And yet, penis was still trying to think of ways to fuck her (penis is just not an emotional guy, I guess). But it was a lost cause. She eventually stormed out the room, determined to find luckiest son of a bitch in the world to tell him how she really felt. God help him if she ever finds him....he'll be needing a name change in short order.

Bottom line....for every wonderful CL experience like Encounters #1 and #2, there is always the risk of this type of situation happening. It's the price you pay for not paying a price, I suppose. And as you'll learn, it wasn't the last time it happened to me either. Nor was it the worst encounter. Scary thought, right? Stay tuned!

Tangent #2: Phone fantasy

One of my favorite inappropriate sexual fantasies.....

She's on the phone with someone. Maybe her boss? A client? Someone she needs to talk to in a serious and professional manner. Her voice takes on that business-like tone.

I crawl up to her. Begin to kiss her neck softly. Caress her breasts softly with my hands. Run my fingers up and down her thighs. I look into her eyes....(she is trying so hard to remain attentive to her call). But I kiss slowly down her chest, rolling my tongue gently over her nipples. Making a slow trail of soft kisses down her stomach (she is breathing heavier now, her voice starting to shake ever so slightly).

Slowly pulling down her panties. Kissing up and down her thighs....around the outside of her pussy. Getting closer. (She keeps stumbling over her words...apologizing to the person on the other end). Gently kissing her clit. Rolling my tongue in slow circles around it. My tongue suddenly darting inside her....(she moans...her voice quivering...."no, nothing is wrong" she is mumbling to the other person).

I slide my finger inside, curling to caress her g-spot. Taking her clit between my lips now and sucking gently. Fingering her, just at the rhythm she likes. A little faster....a little harder.....she's almost there......

("Sorry, have to go"....the phone slams down.... she screams).

Friday, June 4, 2010

Lesbian Jokes

Three funny lesbian jokes I recently heard:

1. What do you call a lesbian with 1000 semiautomatic weapons? Militia Etheridge

2. What do you call an Irish lesbian? Gaylick

3. What do you call a cupboard full of lesbians? A licker cabinet

Sunday, May 30, 2010

Encounter #2: Good Massage = Gateway Drug

To be honest, I should say that I got 2 real responses to my post. The other 20 or so were fake, spam, etc. Annoying, but unavoidable.

Anyway, so one of the responses was from an email queen. Just wanted to write back and forth, but was too afraid to meet. The other response was the keeper. She was stressed from her job. Massage sounded wonderful. She's meet me at the hotel later that week. Jackpot!!

When she arrived at the room, I was prepared. Massage lotion. Dimmed lights. Towel. Wine. Everything you'd expect from a nice, innocent massage. I left her alone to undress and get comfy. I returned back to the bed, and began the massage. Very slowly. Spend alot of time on the neck, shoulders, and back initially. Just barely graze other areas to get her thinking about it. Ask softly if she'd like her thighs, feet, etc massaged. Of course the answer is yes. If you feel comfortable, I can do the front? She's more than comfortable with that.

Here's some valuable advice, guys.....a good, slow, sensual massage is like a gateway drug. Seemingly innocent and no big deal at first (marijuana), but inevitably gets you into a mood to try more and more intensely pleasurable things (cocaine, heroin, etc). (Please note, I'm not into drugs at all, it was just a good analogy!)

So, what did that initial rub down turn into? Me gently fingering her. Then me sensually eating her out until she came loudly. And then....one of the most lovely blowjobs I've ever received (hand-mouth alteration perfect, slow/deep-fast/shallow sucking ratio ideal, etc. Guys know what I'm talking about). And all this amazing oral sex from a simple post looking to give a friendly massage.

Just get yourself on the field, boys.......and don't forget to bring your weed!

Encounter #2: My First Successful Post

So if you recall, Encounter #1 was my lucky as hell experience after response to a post made by a lovely woman in need of some pleasure. But then I learned how fortunate I had been, and how 95% of female posts are fakes? Ok, we're all caught up.

At this point, I realized that I had to make the posts myself. Guys, it's the only realistic chance you have on CL or any other similar site. You have to be able to draw them in using some of the ideas I expressed in a previous post. Write well, make it about her, stand out without alienating a potential lover, etc.

This all being the case, what angle did I take to lead to my first successful post? I like to call it, "The Massage". The post is short and sweet, and goes something like this...."I'm looking for a woman who enjoy receiving a nice, slow, full-body massage. This guy just wants to help you relax, and get rid of all that stress and tension you have been carrying around. Nothing expected in return, it's just about making you feel good. If this sounds like something you might like, I'd love to hear from you".

Simple. That was it. Notice that it wasn't vulgar, phrased like I had the writing skills of a second grader, offensive, pushy, demanding pleasure for myself. Nothing like that. In fact.....it wasn't even sexual at all! Just a friendly massage.

Of course, I'm no masseuse, and had intentions beyond just giving a massage. But there was no need to get into that just yet. The fact is, these posts are just about getting yourself onto the field. Once you're there, the way you play makes all the difference.

I got two responses to that post, and one worked out quite wonderfully.

Monday, May 24, 2010

Tangent #1

Tangent #1: Do most women really love oral sex that much more than intercourse?

This is the message guys are often sent. We've heard all the stats.... supposedly around 2/3 of women can cum from oral sex, and only 1/3 from intercourse. But it is true? Does it just depend on the skill level of the lover? All things being equal, what is better.......a guy who really knows how to eat pussy, or a guy who really knows how to fuck. I took a random poll of 5 women today on this topic. Their responses:

a) Guy who really knows how to eat pussy: 2
b) Guy who really knows how to fuck: 1
c) Equally good, just focus on what the guy is better at: 2

Interesting. My CL experiences tend to support a). Of course, that could mean that 1) I eat pussy really well 2) I don't fuck well enough (surely not the case!), or 3) More women in general just appreciate good cunnilingus. A mystery that warrants further exploration.....

Friday, May 21, 2010

Lesson #3

95% of responses you get from your posts are spam.

Depressing, isn't it? We've established that almost all female posts are fake, and almost all responses you get from your posts are fake. What a fucking waste of time this is!!! Fear not my friends, we will be making good use of the leftover 5%, as you shall soon learn.

But for now, yes, expect most of the responses you get to be crap. Most of them will contain links to different dating websites they are trying to get you to sign up for. Please don't fall for it and reinforce them. Just delete and move on. You'll notice the tone of the spam email.....very fake sounding, and almost always contains a link. Sometimes they do get crafty though, and start with a legitimate sounding response. Then when you respond back, they will finally show their hand and respond again pimping a website.

Craig's List has tried different things to throw off these fools (word verification, flagging, etc), but so far to no avail. As annoying at is it to have to delete all of these useless emails, don't lose hope. If you construct your post properly (see Lesson #2), you will find the diamonds in the rough. Perhaps it's time to share some more of the diamonds I have found to provide some inspiration.....

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Lesson #2

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Sunday, May 16, 2010

Why Guys Suck at Posting on CL

I had reached the point where I realized that the odds of answering "women's" posts, finding the 5% that are actually real, and then making a connection were basically nil, despite my early luck. So it was time to move on to making posts myself. Before doing this, I felt it would be prudent to research what other guys were writing in their posts. Get some ideas. But what I found, frankly, was mind-boggling. The majority of men were actually expecting to get responses from women with posts like the following:

"Need blowjob tonight.....send pic with response"
"Really want to fuck your brains out....write me back (sorry, can't host)"

Were these guys fucking kidding? At first, I was actually angry. Were my fellow males really this stupid to expect results from lines like this? But quickly, the anger turned to a sense of encouragement. I started getting a little bit excited! Why, my friends? Because I was in a position to take advantage of the shortsightedness of these other clueless guys. I knew now that any post I wrote would stand out significantly from the nonsense I had read from these fools.

And as I quickly learned, the quality of the writing in your Craig's List posts makes all the difference.

Friday, May 14, 2010

Lesson #1

95% of female posts seeking sexual encounters on Craig's List and related sites are fakes.

Sad, but true. They are just websites trying to reel you in to respond, so they can advertise their site and get you to sign up by thinking with your dick. It's actually a fairly intelligent ploy, I must admit....preying on men's weaknesses and vulnerabilities. But don't fall for it, my friends. As you will soon learn, there is much more success to be had when you are the one making the posts.....

Reality Check

So you can imagine how I felt after Encounter #1. It was as if I just found the most amazingly easy source of hot sex ever created. All I do is log on, answer a post, and passionate encounters are inevitable. God's gift to men everywhere!

But alas, no. As time began to wear on, it dawned on me just how lucky I was to have that early success. I answered many more posts in the weeks that followed. None of them lead to any additional encounters. I did get some replies.....if you count spam as a reply. And I was so naive. When I got the first email that said "sure, I'll hook up with you, all you have to do is sign up for this website and I'm all yours!", I am embarrassed to admit I signed up for it. Thinking something actually might happen. It didn't. They just got another idiot to register for their pointless dating site.

This went on for a few weeks before I accepted that fact that my beginner's luck was not to be repeated. And I learned the hard reality of Lesson #1......

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Encounter #1

For reasons I will eventually describe on the blog, my first Craig's List encounter was EXTREMELY lucky. Basically the equivalent of your hot high school teacher asking you to stay after class, and then fucking you on her desk. Well, in that neighborhood at least.

So what made this encounter so lucky? Very simple....I was actually responding to a post made by a real woman!! Yes, I'm serious. How rare is this? It deserves its own post, let's put it that way. Anyway, it was a post made by a 42 year old female, saying that her husband was away, and she needed a quickie that afternoon. Preferred a younger guy (raises hand!). Didn't leave a name, and I didn't need one....anonymous was good. I read it at the right time. Responded I was interested (more on how I responded in later posts....but very important). She responded back. Exchanged pics. She looked very MILF-y. We were at the hotel together about 3 hours later.

Now, I didn't know what to expect by any means. Anyone can send a bullshit picture. Was I meeting a woman far less attractive than her photo? Was I meeting a woman at all?? Would anyone show up?? Leap of faith, my friends. But then she arrived...knocked on the hotel room door....and she was just as her picture promised. 42, curvy in all the right places, wearing a sexy, short skirt and tank top. I began to attempt fumbling through some small talk, but she spared me. She had no interests in chit chat.

She walked up to me and kissed me...forcefully. We kissed passionately for what seemed like hours, before we made it to the bed. Taking each others' clothes off as fast as we could, and tossing them randomly around the room like you see in movies. I kissed down her body slowly....up and down her thighs. Finally, I began to taste her (something I LOVE to do). My oral assault lasted quite a long time. She was very responsive....moaning loudly, and even squealing at times. And that was all before I slid a finger inside her.

She then reciprocated. Her skills were amazing (alternating slow and fast, short and deep), and I had to stop her before ending things too quickly in her mouth. I wanted more.....I needed to be inside her. I quickly ripped open the condom and put it on, and then slid myself inside her. In and out. Slowly at first....gradually faster and harder. Her moaning was making it impossible to hold back. Eventually she began a loud crescendo of moans, and I lost it....cumming as hard as I've ever cum. She laid next to me....still breathing heavy, sweating slightly. She grinned at me seductively and kissed me lightly on the lips. "Thanks". With that, she got up, got dressed, and with a last wink and smile, promptly left the room.

I was left to myself. As I laid on the bed reflecting on the experience, I only had one thought in my mind......what the fuck took me so long to use Craig's List? Could getting laid actually be any easier??

You see, I didn't realize how lucky I was then. But before long, I would learn.

So, Why Craig's List?

There are so many different dating sites out there, for people looking for long term relationships, quick hook-ups, married dating, etc. So why are pretty much all of my stories going to be based upon people I have met through one website? Very simple, my friends.....IT'S FREE! I strongly believe that you should not have to pay just for the opportunity to meet someone for some (hopefully) hot sex. No winks and flirts and pay per message emails. No thank you. If I wanted to pay to have sex, I would find myself an escort.

Now, I understand that there are many people in situations where they can't afford to take the risk of pursuing others through Craig's List. If you're married for example, it can be a little anxiety provoking. Fortunately for me, I am currently single (well, unmarried single at least....), so it's a little easier. But be on the look out for those tips that I will be providing on the blog. I will certainly be addressing the successful use of Craig's List for those of you who are in more...sensitive....situations.

Alright, so I think we're ready to go. Starting tomorrow, the good stuff begins! Come prepared.....I will be sharing my very first Craig's List encounter. And still one of the most memorable to date.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

First Things First

Before delving into all the juicy stories I have to tell, I would be remiss in not posting a quick introduction to the blog. So first and foremost.....welcome! And thanks for reading. If you are someone who appreciates a stimulating, seductive story, then this is defintiely the blog for you. Although the title is fairly self-explanatory, most posts will fall into one of the following three categories:

1. Stories (graphic stories, I should say) about encounters I have had with women that I met through using Craig's List.

2. General advice, strategies, and successful approaches I have found in meeting women through Craig's List (and related free sites).

3. Somewhat tangential, though still interesting stories and thoughts from past relationship experiences, sexual encounters, etc.

Sound like something that you might enjoy reading? Good. Settle in, because I have plenty to share. And just to forewarn.....at times, things will get a little explicit and NSFW. You can handle that, right?