Saturday, July 10, 2010

Tangent #6: Hot and Bothered

I'm having one of those frustrating Saturday nights tonight.

You know the type of Saturday night I am talking about. You're alone (literally or figuratively). Your body is tingling with arousal and sexual desire from head to toe. It seems like there is nothing else in the world besides you and your desperate longing for somebody's touch. One of those nights where masturbation just isn't enough. You need that feeling of skin on skin, you need to hear the moans of someone else reflecting the pleasure that you are also feeling.

Sounds good so far, right? But here comes the frustrating part.....there is no one to fill this need for me tonight. The woman I have been casually seeing recently is not around. And I even went so far as to make a couple of calls to some women from the past that I still hook up with from time to time (one of which was a CL girl, though we haven't gotten to her story yet). But alas, they were not available.

Don't get me wrong, the bachelor lifestyle has its perks. Significant perks, in fact. But this is a big downside. To feel this way tonight, and not have a significant other to indulge in these desires, is borderline torture. I'm so turned on that I might even be willing go for phone/cyber sex tonight! Yes, the need is that strong.

I have so many fantasies running through my mind right now that it's hard to even keep track. For tonight though, they seem destined to remain fantasies. Unfulfilled desires.

I'm sure everyone has nights like this. Doesn't it suck?

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Encounters #6 and #7: No Touching Allowed

Up to this point, I think I had been handling my CL posts pretty well. The posts were well-written, suggestive without being offensive, focused on her pleasure as opposed to mine.....all good stuff. And I had been getting pretty good results, overall.

But as such things usually go, it was only a matter of time before I was just a little too slick for my own good. As I mentioned in my last post, my thought process was that since my massage posts so were so successful, there had to be other 'gateway' activities I could introduce to get even more responses. To recap, gateway activities are things like massages that are innocent seeming and don't scare people away, but set the right mood for things to eventually progress to naughtier activities.

So, what other gateways could I create. Hmmmm. Then it came to me. What about phone sex?? Or cyber sex?? Safe, anonymous, non-threatening. Yet still enjoyable. Yes, that fits the criteria for gateway activities! I It was decided.....I immediately created new posts, highlighting cyber sex and phone sex respectively (in separate posts of course, to not alienate people only interested in one or the other).

The initial returns were great. Several responses. A few non-starters, as always, but also a few legitimately interested ladies. Two in particular....one answering my phone sex post, and the other my cyber sex post.

To make a long story short, I eventually began engaging in the two respective activities with both ladies. Both were kinda fun the first time. A little less fun the next time. Kinda redundant the third time. You get the idea. After the third time with each person, I said to myself, ok, it's time to strike. The gateway has been established, and it's now time to cross over!

Not so fast. Neither had any interest in taking things to an in-person level. They were perfectly content with these anonymous, masturbatory sessions. They were both too nervous to meet in person, for different reasons (one married, one self-conscious). But they were more than happy to continue on with the calls and emails/IMs. I was not though, and told them I was going to move on.

Lessons learned. First, cyber sex and phone sex are overrated, if not part of a bigger, physically involved relationship. Second, not all gateways actually lead to something better. Sometimes the gateway is just the end of the road!

It was time to regroup.