Encounter #11: Fun with Porn

(Blogger's note: Sorry for the long delay in posting, things have been crazy busy lately with work and life in general. But I am hoping to get back on track with 2 posts per week again now....thanks for your patience!)

I have to admit.....it was my idea.

I was emailing back and forth with "Amanda" who I had met on CL, and she asked me if there was anything I wanted to do that would be a little 'different' when we hooked up. So I thought about it. What had I not done during any of these encounters yet that could be fun and spice things up a little bit. And then it came to me.....porn! Wouldn't it be fun to have sex with a total stranger, while watching other total strangers have sex?? It sounded good to me, so I suggested it to her. She was game. We made plans.

We arranged to meet at a local motel that often advertised free pornography as one of it's perks. A little sleazy perhaps? Yes. Typically I prefer to meet my encounters in nicer hotels so we can be more comfortable. But the point of this encounter was to be a little different, a little dirtier. So we were both willing to tolerate the tackier accommodations. I mean, honestly, as long as they had a bed, was there really any other major deal-breaker?

The room turned out to be fine. We both had a laugh at the mirrors on the ceiling and heart-shaped designs throughout the room. Clearly, we were not exactly the first couple here just to engage in naughty activities. So, we started out by getting comfortable with each other, making out a little, etc. After the ice had been broken, I went for the tv remote with a smile. Of course, I had to make a crack about how she just wasn't doing it for me so I was going to catch some of Sportscenter....thankfully she had a sense of humor!

I turned on the porn. We laid together and watched. It was pretty hot.....the scenes were very raw and explicit. As we watched, we would slowly touch each other, teasing. We were both getting incredibly turned on, as evidenced from the heavy breathing from both sides of the bed. Was it each other having that effect or the porn? Or both? Did it matter? I tend to think it was both. But in any event, we were soon pleasuring each other orally, and then enjoying several positions of fucking. Of course, there were a few positions that were in the porn where we just looked at each other like, yeah ain't happening! One of the downsides of trying to emulate porn actors....normal people just aren't that flexible. Ah well.

The sex was good, and the porn did spice things up. I had fun. Afterward, she started asking me questions that lead me to further understand the potential downsides of porn (particularly for the insecure). Was she as sexy as the women in the scenes? Did she turn me on more than the scenes did? Was it disappointing that we couldn't do every position? I tried to reassure her, but I could tell she wasn't totally convinced. But what could I do? She was attractive, and I certainly would have had fun without porn. No way to prove that to her though. Looking back, I hope the insecurities don't stand out in her memories as much as the fun of the experience.

Would I suggest this again? Probably not for a NSA encounter like this. Like phone sex and cyber sex, it's a better thing to use in the course of a longer term relationship to add a new wrinkle. Or, of course, for a fun solo experience  ;)

Porn: Pros and Cons

A little prelude to our next encounter.

So, tonight's topic is porn. Specifically, the pros and cons. Now I need to start be clarifying something right away.......I'm not talking about sitting down by yourself, watching a hot porn, and then having a fantastic masturbatory experience. In that scenario, there are only pros!! No, we are talking about having sex while watching porn. Or using porn as foreplay into actual sex with your partner. Still sounds like mostly good stuff, right? For the most part. But from my experience (including the upcoming encounter), there are a couple of cons to weigh as well.

Without further ado, the pros of cons of sex while watching porn:

Pros

1. Obviously, adds extra excitement and arousal
2. Spices things up; adds variety to your lovemaking (or fucking, however you like to look at it)
3. Give you some new ideas to try
4. Combines two of men's favorite pastimes....tv watching and sex!
5. Any neighbors listening in will think any audio from the porn is just you guys going at it, and it will make you look like you've got the hottest sex life on the block!

Cons

1. Neither of you quite look like those porn stars (the self conscious factor)
2. Neither of you are quite in good enough shape to be doing all of those positions!
3. When used repeatedly, it can become a crutch for an otherwise struggling sex life; can't get turned on without it
4. Creates an unrealistic portrayal of how easy it seems to consistently have amazing sex, while you are in the context of a long term relationship
5. Keeps your focus off of the person you really want to be focused on!

Nit picking there? Perhaps a little. I do lean on the pro side of porn much more, but as we shall see in the next post, those cons can creep in every now and then! Details to come.......

Tangent #8: Sounds of the Female Orgasm

After being with a fairly decent number of women in my life, one thing that has always fascinated me is the amount of different styles of orgasm that I have encountered with each one. It's really very interesting. Not that I've been with any men, but I've seen enough porn to know that all men basically cum the same. Grunt, grunt, groan, ejaculate. The end. But with ladies, there seem to be so many different varieties. Here are some of the styles I have seen most often:

1. "Quiet cummer"......this is the woman who is not very vocal when she cums. It can be merely a sigh, or a short little groan. You think you're just getting her started, and she's done already!

2. "Non-stop cummer"....this is the opposite type of woman. She is extremely vocal, moaning loudly throughout the entire experience. Sometimes you can't even tell when she's actually having the orgasm, or just moaning loudly in anticipation.

3. "The squealer".....the name pretty much says it all. Instead of moaning, this woman squeals in pleasure. Kind of a hot change of pace, if you ask me.

4. "The screamer".....another fairly self-explanatory one. When the orgasm finally hits, this lady is taking her moaning up to a decibel you can't even imagine! People down the block will know that you are going a nice job satisfying her.

5. "The beggar".......when this woman speaks during sex, it is typically to plead with you in some way. "Please...don't stop". "Harder.....faster.....". "I'm so close, please keep going". "Oh God....please...".  These are the things you hear leading into her orgasm. Very arousing.

6. "Painful cummer".....this is the woman that actually looks like she is in physical pain when she's cumming. I was with one such woman where I actually became concerned that I was hurting her as she was having an orgasm, but she just got mad at me for slowing down.

7. "The faker".....unfortunately, we all know this woman. Instead of clearly communicating what she wants to you and taking time to get there, she 'protects your ego' and expedites things by becoming overly dramatic.

8. "Crying cummer"....yep, this is the woman who cries during/after an orgasm. I've never been that overcome with emotion while cumming, but it must be pretty cool to have such a combination of physical and emotional pleasure.

For any ladies reading, I am curious which category you would fit into??

Encounter #10: Looks Aren't Everything

I didn't ask to see her picture, as I usually don't.

I didn't even ask for a description of what she looked like.....our plans materialized so quickly, that I didn't even get a chance to get into such details with her. I was willing to take a chance.

We were meeting at a nice hotel. I arrived first and got the room. And then waited for her.

20 minutes later she arrived with a knock on the door. I opened the door to reveal her. She was.....not exactly my type. Very skinny (I prefer curvier women). Very short hair (I prefer longer hair). Very tall (I prefer women of smaller to average height). In short.....I wasn't very attracted to her.

She walked in the room. She looked at me with a mischievous look. Without saying a word, she removed her blouse. And then her skirt. She had very sexy, lacy undergarments. Silently, she moved toward me. Kneeling before me. Unzipping me. Pulling down my pants. Taking me in her mouth.....sucking expertly.

Then leading me to the bed. Allowing me to kiss her....everywhere. Responding to my every touch with deep sighs and sexy moans. Then she turned me on back, and got on top of me. Slid me inside her. And began riding me like her life depended on it. She felt amazing. Harder and faster, just at the right times....she knew what she was doing.

I turned her over and began fucking her missionary style. She was spread wide, wet, and guiding my hips at the speed she liked. We both moaned faster.....approaching the same place at the same time.

We came together. It was an incredibly intense, powerful orgasm. I can't even say I remember what happened afterward. We may have made some small talk before we parted ways. I have not seen her again since. Even if I had wanted to, she made it clear initially that she was looking for a one-time experience.

Looking back, I still can't say I was very attracted to her. Not that she was horribly unattractive or anything, but just not my cup of tea. But she was seductive. And sensual. And knew what she was doing in bed. And I enjoyed every minute with her.

Looks aren't everything.