Are Cybersex and Phone Sex Overrated?

This is another post that doesn't qualify as a "tangent", since it will segue us into Encounter #6. Just in case anyone was wondering!

So, we have already discussed how shower sex is vastly overrated. I now propose two more forms of "sex" (if they really even qualify) that are highly overrated: Cybersex and Phone Sex.

Now to be fair, like shower sex, Cybersex and Phone Sex both sound pretty good in theory. It seems like it would be exciting to email naughty messages back and forth while both parties pleasure themselves. And it seems like it would be even hotter to hear someone's moans over the phone as they touch themselves while listening to your moans as you do the same. They both actually sound quite stimulating!

This is the first problem. For me, anyway. It's masturbation. You're getting yourself off. The other person is getting themselves off. You can't see them or touch them. As far as the visual (sort of) and audio stimulation received from Cyber and Phone Sex respectively.....I can accomplish that with porn. And at least porn gives me a good visual to work with.

And here's the bigger problem....Cybersex and Phone Sex are ultimately a tease. It just makes you want physical contact with the person more. When you often can't have it. Now, might this be fun once in a while during the course of a long term relationship, maybe when one person is away on business while the other is home? Of course! That is not the type of scenario that I'm talking about here though. I'm talking about meeting new people, wanting to have hot, in-person sex with them, but they cannot move past the "safety" and anonymity of cyber or phone encounters. It's as frustrating as hell, and as I've found, more common that you might think. It's like hearing the steak sizzle on the grill, smelling the delicious aroma, and then never getting to taste it. What's the point??

As you will soon learn, I only have myself to blame for getting stuck in some of these scenarios. Remember when we said a good massage was like a gateway drug, and always leads to better things? Well, I thought that perhaps the same principle might apply if I used Cyber/Phone Sex as the selling point on my Craig's List posts.

I was wrong. Details to come......