I didn't ask to see her picture, as I usually don't.
I didn't even ask for a description of what she looked like.....our plans materialized so quickly, that I didn't even get a chance to get into such details with her. I was willing to take a chance.
We were meeting at a nice hotel. I arrived first and got the room. And then waited for her.
20 minutes later she arrived with a knock on the door. I opened the door to reveal her. She was.....not exactly my type. Very skinny (I prefer curvier women). Very short hair (I prefer longer hair). Very tall (I prefer women of smaller to average height). In short.....I wasn't very attracted to her.
She walked in the room. She looked at me with a mischievous look. Without saying a word, she removed her blouse. And then her skirt. She had very sexy, lacy undergarments. Silently, she moved toward me. Kneeling before me. Unzipping me. Pulling down my pants. Taking me in her mouth.....sucking expertly.
Then leading me to the bed. Allowing me to kiss her....everywhere. Responding to my every touch with deep sighs and sexy moans. Then she turned me on back, and got on top of me. Slid me inside her. And began riding me like her life depended on it. She felt amazing. Harder and faster, just at the right times....she knew what she was doing.
I turned her over and began fucking her missionary style. She was spread wide, wet, and guiding my hips at the speed she liked. We both moaned faster.....approaching the same place at the same time.
We came together. It was an incredibly intense, powerful orgasm. I can't even say I remember what happened afterward. We may have made some small talk before we parted ways. I have not seen her again since. Even if I had wanted to, she made it clear initially that she was looking for a one-time experience.
Looking back, I still can't say I was very attracted to her. Not that she was horribly unattractive or anything, but just not my cup of tea. But she was seductive. And sensual. And knew what she was doing in bed. And I enjoyed every minute with her.
Looks aren't everything.
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Sex Without Attraction
As we segue into our next encounter, I start by posing this question: what happens when you are looking for someone to hook up with (NSA style), find someone, agree to meet them without seeing a picture, and then find that you're not really attracted to them? Can sex be really good without attraction?
Now, I'm sure many people are just saying, "well, why the hell would you not want to see what the person looks like beforehand to avoid this situation altogether??". Fair point, my friends. At least for me, I have arranged to meet with several people without seeing a picture first. Why? Because it adds to the excitement level. Creates an air of mystery. Not knowing exactly what to expect heightens your senses significantly, and can create nicely elevated arousal levels.
Are there some precautions to be taken in this type of scenario? Of course. I always ask potential encounters to describe themselves to me. I enjoy hearing their descriptions and imaging what they might look like. Getting a mental image can be alot more fun than just seeing a picture and eliminating all of the mystery. And of course, if someone says they are 500 pounds and missing half their teeth, we can safely avoid an awkward situation. Though many people tend to stretch the truth a little bit when describing themselves, I've found that most people are at least in the ballpark.
Anyway, the question still remains. You've chatted with someone. Gotten a description of them that sounds promising. Agreed to meet them somewhere private. And when you see them.....you're just not finding them very attractive. Not necessarily repulsive, like our 500 pound friend with no teeth, but just not quite your cup of tea. You don't even have the scenario that everyone experiences where you're initially not attracted to someone, and then you get to know them and get closer emotionally to them, and then the physical attraction seems to develop later. Sorry, you're just meeting the person now!
Can sex still be good with someone you're not immediately attracted to? Can it be really good?
YES IT CAN! Stay tuned......
Now, I'm sure many people are just saying, "well, why the hell would you not want to see what the person looks like beforehand to avoid this situation altogether??". Fair point, my friends. At least for me, I have arranged to meet with several people without seeing a picture first. Why? Because it adds to the excitement level. Creates an air of mystery. Not knowing exactly what to expect heightens your senses significantly, and can create nicely elevated arousal levels.
Are there some precautions to be taken in this type of scenario? Of course. I always ask potential encounters to describe themselves to me. I enjoy hearing their descriptions and imaging what they might look like. Getting a mental image can be alot more fun than just seeing a picture and eliminating all of the mystery. And of course, if someone says they are 500 pounds and missing half their teeth, we can safely avoid an awkward situation. Though many people tend to stretch the truth a little bit when describing themselves, I've found that most people are at least in the ballpark.
Anyway, the question still remains. You've chatted with someone. Gotten a description of them that sounds promising. Agreed to meet them somewhere private. And when you see them.....you're just not finding them very attractive. Not necessarily repulsive, like our 500 pound friend with no teeth, but just not quite your cup of tea. You don't even have the scenario that everyone experiences where you're initially not attracted to someone, and then you get to know them and get closer emotionally to them, and then the physical attraction seems to develop later. Sorry, you're just meeting the person now!
Can sex still be good with someone you're not immediately attracted to? Can it be really good?
YES IT CAN! Stay tuned......
Thursday, August 12, 2010
Phone/Cyber Sex Challenge: Wrap-Up
The phone/cyber sex challenge has concluded. Here is a summary of the results.
As I expected, there were not a large amount of people brave enough to take me up on the challenge (despite many vehement arguments against my post claiming both activities to be overrated). Though this was not shocking, it did not provide a significant amount of chances for my mind to be changed. Anyway, here are the results....of course, each individual will remain anonymous.
Total number of responses received: 6
Total number of people for phone sex: 2
Total number of people for cyber sex: 4
Total number of people actually following through on phone sex: 1
Total number of people actually following through on cyber sex: 3
So overall, a total of 4 real contestants. The phone sex contestant was very anxious during our session. It was enjoyable, but went fairly quickly. She did have a sexy voice though, despite her nerves. Cyber contestant #1 was not very good, I'm afraid to say. Very un-descriptive and rushed. Though she did self-identify this as we went along. I think she was just kind of bored and horny, so she figured that she would play the game. Can't fault her for that.
Cyber contestant #2, a fellow blogger, was MUCH better. Very erotic, writes very well, and did an excellent job. Though we both enjoyed the session, here was the funny part.....she thought cyber/phone sex was overrated too! And despite the fact that we both had fun, we both came away with the same conclusion.....we were right! Not that the session wasn't good, but it just left us wanting each other for real! And sadly, due to lack of proximity, that just wasn't in the cards.
Cyber contestant #3 was interesting....she LOVED cyber sex, and was convinced to show me that it was the best thing since sliced bread. Was she good? Yes. Did she convince me? No. Why not? She had me thinking about cyber contestant #2 the entire time, and how badly I wanted to experience my session with her in real life!
Conclusions:
1. Most enjoyable experience: Cyber contestant #2
2. Change in opinion of either phone or cyber sex: No
3. Why no change of opinion: Simply because either experience is going to lead to one of two outcomes: 1) it's going to be somewhat awkward and not so great, or 2) it's going to be really good, and you're just going to want to fuck the person for real!!!
4. When is cyber/phone sex good: In the context of a longer term relationship, where it can be used to add some spice when people are apart....and it is guaranteed they will be fucking in person again soon!
Ok, I think I've belabored this topic enough now. We will move on with our story shortly.
As I expected, there were not a large amount of people brave enough to take me up on the challenge (despite many vehement arguments against my post claiming both activities to be overrated). Though this was not shocking, it did not provide a significant amount of chances for my mind to be changed. Anyway, here are the results....of course, each individual will remain anonymous.
Total number of responses received: 6
Total number of people for phone sex: 2
Total number of people for cyber sex: 4
Total number of people actually following through on phone sex: 1
Total number of people actually following through on cyber sex: 3
So overall, a total of 4 real contestants. The phone sex contestant was very anxious during our session. It was enjoyable, but went fairly quickly. She did have a sexy voice though, despite her nerves. Cyber contestant #1 was not very good, I'm afraid to say. Very un-descriptive and rushed. Though she did self-identify this as we went along. I think she was just kind of bored and horny, so she figured that she would play the game. Can't fault her for that.
Cyber contestant #2, a fellow blogger, was MUCH better. Very erotic, writes very well, and did an excellent job. Though we both enjoyed the session, here was the funny part.....she thought cyber/phone sex was overrated too! And despite the fact that we both had fun, we both came away with the same conclusion.....we were right! Not that the session wasn't good, but it just left us wanting each other for real! And sadly, due to lack of proximity, that just wasn't in the cards.
Cyber contestant #3 was interesting....she LOVED cyber sex, and was convinced to show me that it was the best thing since sliced bread. Was she good? Yes. Did she convince me? No. Why not? She had me thinking about cyber contestant #2 the entire time, and how badly I wanted to experience my session with her in real life!
Conclusions:
1. Most enjoyable experience: Cyber contestant #2
2. Change in opinion of either phone or cyber sex: No
3. Why no change of opinion: Simply because either experience is going to lead to one of two outcomes: 1) it's going to be somewhat awkward and not so great, or 2) it's going to be really good, and you're just going to want to fuck the person for real!!!
4. When is cyber/phone sex good: In the context of a longer term relationship, where it can be used to add some spice when people are apart....and it is guaranteed they will be fucking in person again soon!
Ok, I think I've belabored this topic enough now. We will move on with our story shortly.
Sunday, August 8, 2010
Encounter #9: Part 2
(Note: For purposes of this blog, an "encounter" refers to a particular person I hooked up with at some point. Some people were seen multiple times, but I am not counting each instance as a separate encounter here. Like today, I plan to write about follow-up encounters only when there is something noteworthy....can't imagine anyone would just want a post written purely to describe more sex, right???)
So, as we left off, I just had a lovely encounter with our married friend, Kim. She invited me to meet her again, and I agreed. Although I do like the one and done encounters, it is sometimes fun to see someone multiple times when we really seem to click well. I was still a little uneasy about her being married, particularly since seemed pretty emotional and upset about the way her marriage was unraveling. There was potential for messiness, but I forged ahead nonetheless.
We met again the following week.....twice. The sex was great again both times. She was sensual and vocal, and even a little kinky! The post-sex discussion revolved around her describing the problems in her marriage. Both times she became emotional and started crying. I felt very badly for her and the terrible situation she was in (her husband sounded like a complete dick). She told me how nice it was to be with someone who appreciated her and treated her well, and wondered why her husband could not do the same. It felt good to hear that, though it was sad that her she felt trapped in such an unhappy life. She loved her son, and wouldn't hurt him by going through a painful divorce process. So she was going to stick it out, no matter how miserable she became. And trust me, she was miserable.
A few days after I saw her for the third time, she emailed me. She told me that despite the misery her husband was putting her through, she felt unbearable guilt about straying from her marriage. She had told her husband about seeing me. He was of course enraged, though she assured me that she would not give him any specific information about me (not that she really had much to give, aside from the email address I was writing her on). She told me she was sorry, but that she had made a mistake, and could not see me again. That was the last I ever heard from her.
I felt terrible for her. From what she described of her husband, he wouldn't be the type to leave her for cheating....he was too insecure himself. He would probably just use it as more reason to treat her like shit. And it made me angry, because without going into detail, she had plenty of justification to be cheating on him. But she was very conservative with a religious background, and couldn't keep doing it. I hope she finds the courage to leave him eventually.
I was actually a little nervous for a while after this....kept expecting her psycho husband to be waiting for me in a dark alley somewhere. But luckily, it did not occur. Perhaps now though you understand my nervousness about meeting married women for "NSA" encounters. You never know when there might be some strings!
You're probably assuming this was the last encounter I had with a married woman, right? I thought it would be too....but I was later convinced otherwise. With much better results. But we'll get to that story soon enough!
So, as we left off, I just had a lovely encounter with our married friend, Kim. She invited me to meet her again, and I agreed. Although I do like the one and done encounters, it is sometimes fun to see someone multiple times when we really seem to click well. I was still a little uneasy about her being married, particularly since seemed pretty emotional and upset about the way her marriage was unraveling. There was potential for messiness, but I forged ahead nonetheless.
We met again the following week.....twice. The sex was great again both times. She was sensual and vocal, and even a little kinky! The post-sex discussion revolved around her describing the problems in her marriage. Both times she became emotional and started crying. I felt very badly for her and the terrible situation she was in (her husband sounded like a complete dick). She told me how nice it was to be with someone who appreciated her and treated her well, and wondered why her husband could not do the same. It felt good to hear that, though it was sad that her she felt trapped in such an unhappy life. She loved her son, and wouldn't hurt him by going through a painful divorce process. So she was going to stick it out, no matter how miserable she became. And trust me, she was miserable.
A few days after I saw her for the third time, she emailed me. She told me that despite the misery her husband was putting her through, she felt unbearable guilt about straying from her marriage. She had told her husband about seeing me. He was of course enraged, though she assured me that she would not give him any specific information about me (not that she really had much to give, aside from the email address I was writing her on). She told me she was sorry, but that she had made a mistake, and could not see me again. That was the last I ever heard from her.
I felt terrible for her. From what she described of her husband, he wouldn't be the type to leave her for cheating....he was too insecure himself. He would probably just use it as more reason to treat her like shit. And it made me angry, because without going into detail, she had plenty of justification to be cheating on him. But she was very conservative with a religious background, and couldn't keep doing it. I hope she finds the courage to leave him eventually.
I was actually a little nervous for a while after this....kept expecting her psycho husband to be waiting for me in a dark alley somewhere. But luckily, it did not occur. Perhaps now though you understand my nervousness about meeting married women for "NSA" encounters. You never know when there might be some strings!
You're probably assuming this was the last encounter I had with a married woman, right? I thought it would be too....but I was later convinced otherwise. With much better results. But we'll get to that story soon enough!
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