Hey, I almost was able to get 2 posts out within the span of a week! Aren't you all proud of me!??
Alright, so it's been a while since we had a nice little tangent post. What do you say we explore another sexual topic outside of our main storyline?
Today's topic is masturbation. Specifically, the pros and cons of masturbation as related to the quality of your sex life (I know, I'm just into pros and cons lists for some reason). In the interests of quality research, I polled a sample of male and female friends of mine (about 10 each), and asked them the following questions:
1. How often do you masturbate?
2. Do you have more satisfying orgasms when masturbating or having sex?
3. Do you enjoy sex more when you have recently masturbated more or less?
4. Do you masturbate significantly more often when single, as opposed to when in a relationship?
5. Do you openly discuss your masturbation habits with your partners?
Before we get to the answers given by my sample, here are my answers: 1. 3-4 times per week 2. When Masturbating 3. More 4. No 5. Generally No
My sample's answers, divided by gender:
1. Men: Average of 3.3 times per week; Women: Average of 2.4 times per week (closer than I thought)
2. Men: 6/10 had better orgasms masturbating, 4/10 having sex; Women: 8/10 better orgasms masturbating, 2/10 having sex (damn guys, we need to step it up!)
3. Men: 7/10 enjoyed sex more after recent masturbation; Women: 3/10 enjoyed sex more after recent masturbation (interesting....my theory: men struggle more sexually when too aroused, opposite for women)
4. Men: 9/10 masturbate more when single; Women: 6/10 masturbate more when single (hmmmm...)
5. Men: 6/10 don't discuss masturbation habits with partners; Women: 8/10 don't discuss masturbation habits with partners (hmmmmm again!....do people feel threatened by thinking of their partners masturbating? )
So there you have it. Relatively small sample, I know. But intriguing results. More on this topic to come....
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
Encounter #12: Two Women, One Day
(Blogger's note: I know, I lied. It's been a rough couple of months, what can I say??)
I had 'met' (i.e. exchanged emails) two different women on Craig's List. One had responded to a post I wrote, and one (amazingly) had written a post of her own that I responded to. And she wasn't spam!! A rarity in the world of CL, my friends.
Gina and Diane. Both were available only on Saturday of that week. I could have put off one of them to the following week, I suppose. But who the hell wants to wait?? So for the very first time, I did it.....dates with two CL women on the same day.
I tried to at least space them out. Not that I'm an old man or anything, but I can't exactly cum a million times a day like back in the teenage years (ah, the memories). So I wanted to allot as many hours of recovery time as I could. Gina was the evening date, and I didn't want to embarrass myself!
I met Diane for lunch. Afterward, we made our way to a local hotel and had great sex. A little too great....she wanted a round two after we had finished! God damn it, why do round two's only come around at times like these?? I couldn't exactly tell her that I had to save myself for my next date a few hours later, so what could I do? Yes, round two occurred.
After leaving Diane, I was nervous. Guys, you know that feeling you get after have multiple rounds of sex? Like, feeling all good and relieved, but kinda done for the time being? That was how I felt. How was I going to have adequate sex with Gina??? Should I cancel with her and just reschedule? Fuck it, I decided to just give it a shot. What's the worst that could happen? I suck, and she doesn't want to see me again. Oh well, there would be other proverbial fish in the sea.
No food with Gina, she just wanted to meet in the hotel room (damn, dinner would have bought me some more recovery time). I wasn't feeling quite as done as I was earlier, but I didn't exactly have a raging hard-on either. What helped was that Gina was gorgeous. Blonde, curvy, amazing smile. And very sensual. And luckily, very into foreplay. We made out, and slowly explored each other's bodies. I spent alot of extra time going down on her....my rationale being that if I had any performance issues, that at least I could hang my hat on having given her a couple nice orgasms with my tongue. Then she started going down on me. I was fighting off some nerves and intrusive thoughts (thinking during sex is BAD), but the blowjob went well. Again, not super hard, but adequate.
Now would be the true test. As the condom went on, the nerves rose again. Nothing kills a mediocre erection faster than a tight condom. So, my plan was to get it on and get in as quickly as possible. The more lingering, the more chance for issues. I put it on, jumped on her, and put myself inside. Starting fucking her hard and fast. She was one of those types who kind of moans throughout so you can't really tell when they're cumming exactly (see one of my previous posts), so I reached a point where I didn't want to risk going any further. And I came. She might have too, who knows. Overall, I think it was a respectable effort on my part considering.
So yes, I had sex with two CL women on the same day. It hasn't happened since, but I'll always have that memory. Wish I hadn't allowed it to stress me out so much so I could have relaxed and enjoyed myself a little more, but what can you do. In the end, it worked out pretty damn nicely.
By the way, I never saw Diane again, but did have more fun with Gina......
I had 'met' (i.e. exchanged emails) two different women on Craig's List. One had responded to a post I wrote, and one (amazingly) had written a post of her own that I responded to. And she wasn't spam!! A rarity in the world of CL, my friends.
Gina and Diane. Both were available only on Saturday of that week. I could have put off one of them to the following week, I suppose. But who the hell wants to wait?? So for the very first time, I did it.....dates with two CL women on the same day.
I tried to at least space them out. Not that I'm an old man or anything, but I can't exactly cum a million times a day like back in the teenage years (ah, the memories). So I wanted to allot as many hours of recovery time as I could. Gina was the evening date, and I didn't want to embarrass myself!
I met Diane for lunch. Afterward, we made our way to a local hotel and had great sex. A little too great....she wanted a round two after we had finished! God damn it, why do round two's only come around at times like these?? I couldn't exactly tell her that I had to save myself for my next date a few hours later, so what could I do? Yes, round two occurred.
After leaving Diane, I was nervous. Guys, you know that feeling you get after have multiple rounds of sex? Like, feeling all good and relieved, but kinda done for the time being? That was how I felt. How was I going to have adequate sex with Gina??? Should I cancel with her and just reschedule? Fuck it, I decided to just give it a shot. What's the worst that could happen? I suck, and she doesn't want to see me again. Oh well, there would be other proverbial fish in the sea.
No food with Gina, she just wanted to meet in the hotel room (damn, dinner would have bought me some more recovery time). I wasn't feeling quite as done as I was earlier, but I didn't exactly have a raging hard-on either. What helped was that Gina was gorgeous. Blonde, curvy, amazing smile. And very sensual. And luckily, very into foreplay. We made out, and slowly explored each other's bodies. I spent alot of extra time going down on her....my rationale being that if I had any performance issues, that at least I could hang my hat on having given her a couple nice orgasms with my tongue. Then she started going down on me. I was fighting off some nerves and intrusive thoughts (thinking during sex is BAD), but the blowjob went well. Again, not super hard, but adequate.
Now would be the true test. As the condom went on, the nerves rose again. Nothing kills a mediocre erection faster than a tight condom. So, my plan was to get it on and get in as quickly as possible. The more lingering, the more chance for issues. I put it on, jumped on her, and put myself inside. Starting fucking her hard and fast. She was one of those types who kind of moans throughout so you can't really tell when they're cumming exactly (see one of my previous posts), so I reached a point where I didn't want to risk going any further. And I came. She might have too, who knows. Overall, I think it was a respectable effort on my part considering.
So yes, I had sex with two CL women on the same day. It hasn't happened since, but I'll always have that memory. Wish I hadn't allowed it to stress me out so much so I could have relaxed and enjoyed myself a little more, but what can you do. In the end, it worked out pretty damn nicely.
By the way, I never saw Diane again, but did have more fun with Gina......
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
Two Women in One Day
At long last, a prelude to our next encounter.....
Going into this whole Craig's List conquest, I had a few primary goals. The first, of course, was to have as many fun, no strings attached encounters as possible and create some nice memories. After that, my other biggest goal was to fulfill as many of my own personal sexual fantasies as possible. I think every guy has their own little bucket list of sexual fantasies that they want to indulge in while they can, and I am certainly no different. Most of these fantasies are things that most guys share.....threesomes, semi-dangerous public sex, etc. All good stuff.
I share these fantasies, as well as several others. One of these others is the idea of having sex with two different women on the same day.
Difficult to achieve? Definitely. Particularly when you are single. Probably the most realistic way for people to achieve this is when you are in the course of a relationship/marriage, and then have another encounter on the side on the same day you have sex with your significant other. So it really only entails seeking out one other person. The challenge when you're single is finding TWO separate people. And not just fining two separate people, but two people who are willing to fuck you on the same day! Not easy, my friends. It takes careful planning, both as far as scheduling the encounters, and proactively ensuring that you are 'ready' for both encounters (the fantasy could fast become a nightmare if you are not recovered enough for encounter #2).
So, why do I speak of this as if I have some first-hand knowledge of the situation? Well, do you really need to ask? Details to come.......
Going into this whole Craig's List conquest, I had a few primary goals. The first, of course, was to have as many fun, no strings attached encounters as possible and create some nice memories. After that, my other biggest goal was to fulfill as many of my own personal sexual fantasies as possible. I think every guy has their own little bucket list of sexual fantasies that they want to indulge in while they can, and I am certainly no different. Most of these fantasies are things that most guys share.....threesomes, semi-dangerous public sex, etc. All good stuff.
I share these fantasies, as well as several others. One of these others is the idea of having sex with two different women on the same day.
Difficult to achieve? Definitely. Particularly when you are single. Probably the most realistic way for people to achieve this is when you are in the course of a relationship/marriage, and then have another encounter on the side on the same day you have sex with your significant other. So it really only entails seeking out one other person. The challenge when you're single is finding TWO separate people. And not just fining two separate people, but two people who are willing to fuck you on the same day! Not easy, my friends. It takes careful planning, both as far as scheduling the encounters, and proactively ensuring that you are 'ready' for both encounters (the fantasy could fast become a nightmare if you are not recovered enough for encounter #2).
So, why do I speak of this as if I have some first-hand knowledge of the situation? Well, do you really need to ask? Details to come.......
When Life Interferes....
So, clearly I lied in my last post. Not intentionally, of course. I truly expected to get right back in the groove of cranking out two posts per week. But alas, life interferes again. Nothing terrible or traumatic (or exciting, unfortunately), just long work hours, physical and mental exhaustion, and the lack of time and mental energy to write. It's interesting, being a relatively new blogger, I always figured that no matter what else was going on in life, there would always be the time and motivation to write. It really seemed like such a low-maintenance hobby. But I underestimated how the desire to write (or at least to write solid, non-half-assed posts) can definitely be diminished by mental fatigue from other aspects of life. Well, lesson learned!
I'd like to promise that there will be no more long posting droughts like this again, but obviously it would be silly to make such promises. For now, I'll just say that I will try my best! Thing are slowing down now, so hopefully there should at least be some improvement in the short term.
Thanks for your patience......next post is coming shortly (I promise!)
I'd like to promise that there will be no more long posting droughts like this again, but obviously it would be silly to make such promises. For now, I'll just say that I will try my best! Thing are slowing down now, so hopefully there should at least be some improvement in the short term.
Thanks for your patience......next post is coming shortly (I promise!)
Monday, September 20, 2010
Encounter #11: Fun with Porn
(Blogger's note: Sorry for the long delay in posting, things have been crazy busy lately with work and life in general. But I am hoping to get back on track with 2 posts per week again now....thanks for your patience!)
I have to admit.....it was my idea.
I was emailing back and forth with "Amanda" who I had met on CL, and she asked me if there was anything I wanted to do that would be a little 'different' when we hooked up. So I thought about it. What had I not done during any of these encounters yet that could be fun and spice things up a little bit. And then it came to me.....porn! Wouldn't it be fun to have sex with a total stranger, while watching other total strangers have sex?? It sounded good to me, so I suggested it to her. She was game. We made plans.
We arranged to meet at a local motel that often advertised free pornography as one of it's perks. A little sleazy perhaps? Yes. Typically I prefer to meet my encounters in nicer hotels so we can be more comfortable. But the point of this encounter was to be a little different, a little dirtier. So we were both willing to tolerate the tackier accommodations. I mean, honestly, as long as they had a bed, was there really any other major deal-breaker?
The room turned out to be fine. We both had a laugh at the mirrors on the ceiling and heart-shaped designs throughout the room. Clearly, we were not exactly the first couple here just to engage in naughty activities. So, we started out by getting comfortable with each other, making out a little, etc. After the ice had been broken, I went for the tv remote with a smile. Of course, I had to make a crack about how she just wasn't doing it for me so I was going to catch some of Sportscenter....thankfully she had a sense of humor!
I turned on the porn. We laid together and watched. It was pretty hot.....the scenes were very raw and explicit. As we watched, we would slowly touch each other, teasing. We were both getting incredibly turned on, as evidenced from the heavy breathing from both sides of the bed. Was it each other having that effect or the porn? Or both? Did it matter? I tend to think it was both. But in any event, we were soon pleasuring each other orally, and then enjoying several positions of fucking. Of course, there were a few positions that were in the porn where we just looked at each other like, yeah ain't happening! One of the downsides of trying to emulate porn actors....normal people just aren't that flexible. Ah well.
The sex was good, and the porn did spice things up. I had fun. Afterward, she started asking me questions that lead me to further understand the potential downsides of porn (particularly for the insecure). Was she as sexy as the women in the scenes? Did she turn me on more than the scenes did? Was it disappointing that we couldn't do every position? I tried to reassure her, but I could tell she wasn't totally convinced. But what could I do? She was attractive, and I certainly would have had fun without porn. No way to prove that to her though. Looking back, I hope the insecurities don't stand out in her memories as much as the fun of the experience.
Would I suggest this again? Probably not for a NSA encounter like this. Like phone sex and cyber sex, it's a better thing to use in the course of a longer term relationship to add a new wrinkle. Or, of course, for a fun solo experience ;)
I have to admit.....it was my idea.
I was emailing back and forth with "Amanda" who I had met on CL, and she asked me if there was anything I wanted to do that would be a little 'different' when we hooked up. So I thought about it. What had I not done during any of these encounters yet that could be fun and spice things up a little bit. And then it came to me.....porn! Wouldn't it be fun to have sex with a total stranger, while watching other total strangers have sex?? It sounded good to me, so I suggested it to her. She was game. We made plans.
We arranged to meet at a local motel that often advertised free pornography as one of it's perks. A little sleazy perhaps? Yes. Typically I prefer to meet my encounters in nicer hotels so we can be more comfortable. But the point of this encounter was to be a little different, a little dirtier. So we were both willing to tolerate the tackier accommodations. I mean, honestly, as long as they had a bed, was there really any other major deal-breaker?
The room turned out to be fine. We both had a laugh at the mirrors on the ceiling and heart-shaped designs throughout the room. Clearly, we were not exactly the first couple here just to engage in naughty activities. So, we started out by getting comfortable with each other, making out a little, etc. After the ice had been broken, I went for the tv remote with a smile. Of course, I had to make a crack about how she just wasn't doing it for me so I was going to catch some of Sportscenter....thankfully she had a sense of humor!
I turned on the porn. We laid together and watched. It was pretty hot.....the scenes were very raw and explicit. As we watched, we would slowly touch each other, teasing. We were both getting incredibly turned on, as evidenced from the heavy breathing from both sides of the bed. Was it each other having that effect or the porn? Or both? Did it matter? I tend to think it was both. But in any event, we were soon pleasuring each other orally, and then enjoying several positions of fucking. Of course, there were a few positions that were in the porn where we just looked at each other like, yeah ain't happening! One of the downsides of trying to emulate porn actors....normal people just aren't that flexible. Ah well.
The sex was good, and the porn did spice things up. I had fun. Afterward, she started asking me questions that lead me to further understand the potential downsides of porn (particularly for the insecure). Was she as sexy as the women in the scenes? Did she turn me on more than the scenes did? Was it disappointing that we couldn't do every position? I tried to reassure her, but I could tell she wasn't totally convinced. But what could I do? She was attractive, and I certainly would have had fun without porn. No way to prove that to her though. Looking back, I hope the insecurities don't stand out in her memories as much as the fun of the experience.
Would I suggest this again? Probably not for a NSA encounter like this. Like phone sex and cyber sex, it's a better thing to use in the course of a longer term relationship to add a new wrinkle. Or, of course, for a fun solo experience ;)
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
Porn: Pros and Cons
A little prelude to our next encounter.
So, tonight's topic is porn. Specifically, the pros and cons. Now I need to start be clarifying something right away.......I'm not talking about sitting down by yourself, watching a hot porn, and then having a fantastic masturbatory experience. In that scenario, there are only pros!! No, we are talking about having sex while watching porn. Or using porn as foreplay into actual sex with your partner. Still sounds like mostly good stuff, right? For the most part. But from my experience (including the upcoming encounter), there are a couple of cons to weigh as well.
Without further ado, the pros of cons of sex while watching porn:
Pros
1. Obviously, adds extra excitement and arousal
2. Spices things up; adds variety to your lovemaking (or fucking, however you like to look at it)
3. Give you some new ideas to try
4. Combines two of men's favorite pastimes....tv watching and sex!
5. Any neighbors listening in will think any audio from the porn is just you guys going at it, and it will make you look like you've got the hottest sex life on the block!
Cons
1. Neither of you quite look like those porn stars (the self conscious factor)
2. Neither of you are quite in good enough shape to be doing all of those positions!
3. When used repeatedly, it can become a crutch for an otherwise struggling sex life; can't get turned on without it
4. Creates an unrealistic portrayal of how easy it seems to consistently have amazing sex, while you are in the context of a long term relationship
5. Keeps your focus off of the person you really want to be focused on!
Nit picking there? Perhaps a little. I do lean on the pro side of porn much more, but as we shall see in the next post, those cons can creep in every now and then! Details to come.......
So, tonight's topic is porn. Specifically, the pros and cons. Now I need to start be clarifying something right away.......I'm not talking about sitting down by yourself, watching a hot porn, and then having a fantastic masturbatory experience. In that scenario, there are only pros!! No, we are talking about having sex while watching porn. Or using porn as foreplay into actual sex with your partner. Still sounds like mostly good stuff, right? For the most part. But from my experience (including the upcoming encounter), there are a couple of cons to weigh as well.
Without further ado, the pros of cons of sex while watching porn:
Pros
1. Obviously, adds extra excitement and arousal
2. Spices things up; adds variety to your lovemaking (or fucking, however you like to look at it)
3. Give you some new ideas to try
4. Combines two of men's favorite pastimes....tv watching and sex!
5. Any neighbors listening in will think any audio from the porn is just you guys going at it, and it will make you look like you've got the hottest sex life on the block!
Cons
1. Neither of you quite look like those porn stars (the self conscious factor)
2. Neither of you are quite in good enough shape to be doing all of those positions!
3. When used repeatedly, it can become a crutch for an otherwise struggling sex life; can't get turned on without it
4. Creates an unrealistic portrayal of how easy it seems to consistently have amazing sex, while you are in the context of a long term relationship
5. Keeps your focus off of the person you really want to be focused on!
Nit picking there? Perhaps a little. I do lean on the pro side of porn much more, but as we shall see in the next post, those cons can creep in every now and then! Details to come.......
Sunday, August 29, 2010
Tangent #8: Sounds of the Female Orgasm
After being with a fairly decent number of women in my life, one thing that has always fascinated me is the amount of different styles of orgasm that I have encountered with each one. It's really very interesting. Not that I've been with any men, but I've seen enough porn to know that all men basically cum the same. Grunt, grunt, groan, ejaculate. The end. But with ladies, there seem to be so many different varieties. Here are some of the styles I have seen most often:
1. "Quiet cummer"......this is the woman who is not very vocal when she cums. It can be merely a sigh, or a short little groan. You think you're just getting her started, and she's done already!
2. "Non-stop cummer"....this is the opposite type of woman. She is extremely vocal, moaning loudly throughout the entire experience. Sometimes you can't even tell when she's actually having the orgasm, or just moaning loudly in anticipation.
3. "The squealer".....the name pretty much says it all. Instead of moaning, this woman squeals in pleasure. Kind of a hot change of pace, if you ask me.
4. "The screamer".....another fairly self-explanatory one. When the orgasm finally hits, this lady is taking her moaning up to a decibel you can't even imagine! People down the block will know that you are going a nice job satisfying her.
5. "The beggar".......when this woman speaks during sex, it is typically to plead with you in some way. "Please...don't stop". "Harder.....faster.....". "I'm so close, please keep going". "Oh God....please...". These are the things you hear leading into her orgasm. Very arousing.
6. "Painful cummer".....this is the woman that actually looks like she is in physical pain when she's cumming. I was with one such woman where I actually became concerned that I was hurting her as she was having an orgasm, but she just got mad at me for slowing down.
7. "The faker".....unfortunately, we all know this woman. Instead of clearly communicating what she wants to you and taking time to get there, she 'protects your ego' and expedites things by becoming overly dramatic.
8. "Crying cummer"....yep, this is the woman who cries during/after an orgasm. I've never been that overcome with emotion while cumming, but it must be pretty cool to have such a combination of physical and emotional pleasure.
For any ladies reading, I am curious which category you would fit into??
1. "Quiet cummer"......this is the woman who is not very vocal when she cums. It can be merely a sigh, or a short little groan. You think you're just getting her started, and she's done already!
2. "Non-stop cummer"....this is the opposite type of woman. She is extremely vocal, moaning loudly throughout the entire experience. Sometimes you can't even tell when she's actually having the orgasm, or just moaning loudly in anticipation.
3. "The squealer".....the name pretty much says it all. Instead of moaning, this woman squeals in pleasure. Kind of a hot change of pace, if you ask me.
4. "The screamer".....another fairly self-explanatory one. When the orgasm finally hits, this lady is taking her moaning up to a decibel you can't even imagine! People down the block will know that you are going a nice job satisfying her.
5. "The beggar".......when this woman speaks during sex, it is typically to plead with you in some way. "Please...don't stop". "Harder.....faster.....". "I'm so close, please keep going". "Oh God....please...". These are the things you hear leading into her orgasm. Very arousing.
6. "Painful cummer".....this is the woman that actually looks like she is in physical pain when she's cumming. I was with one such woman where I actually became concerned that I was hurting her as she was having an orgasm, but she just got mad at me for slowing down.
7. "The faker".....unfortunately, we all know this woman. Instead of clearly communicating what she wants to you and taking time to get there, she 'protects your ego' and expedites things by becoming overly dramatic.
8. "Crying cummer"....yep, this is the woman who cries during/after an orgasm. I've never been that overcome with emotion while cumming, but it must be pretty cool to have such a combination of physical and emotional pleasure.
For any ladies reading, I am curious which category you would fit into??
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Encounter #10: Looks Aren't Everything
I didn't ask to see her picture, as I usually don't.
I didn't even ask for a description of what she looked like.....our plans materialized so quickly, that I didn't even get a chance to get into such details with her. I was willing to take a chance.
We were meeting at a nice hotel. I arrived first and got the room. And then waited for her.
20 minutes later she arrived with a knock on the door. I opened the door to reveal her. She was.....not exactly my type. Very skinny (I prefer curvier women). Very short hair (I prefer longer hair). Very tall (I prefer women of smaller to average height). In short.....I wasn't very attracted to her.
She walked in the room. She looked at me with a mischievous look. Without saying a word, she removed her blouse. And then her skirt. She had very sexy, lacy undergarments. Silently, she moved toward me. Kneeling before me. Unzipping me. Pulling down my pants. Taking me in her mouth.....sucking expertly.
Then leading me to the bed. Allowing me to kiss her....everywhere. Responding to my every touch with deep sighs and sexy moans. Then she turned me on back, and got on top of me. Slid me inside her. And began riding me like her life depended on it. She felt amazing. Harder and faster, just at the right times....she knew what she was doing.
I turned her over and began fucking her missionary style. She was spread wide, wet, and guiding my hips at the speed she liked. We both moaned faster.....approaching the same place at the same time.
We came together. It was an incredibly intense, powerful orgasm. I can't even say I remember what happened afterward. We may have made some small talk before we parted ways. I have not seen her again since. Even if I had wanted to, she made it clear initially that she was looking for a one-time experience.
Looking back, I still can't say I was very attracted to her. Not that she was horribly unattractive or anything, but just not my cup of tea. But she was seductive. And sensual. And knew what she was doing in bed. And I enjoyed every minute with her.
Looks aren't everything.
I didn't even ask for a description of what she looked like.....our plans materialized so quickly, that I didn't even get a chance to get into such details with her. I was willing to take a chance.
We were meeting at a nice hotel. I arrived first and got the room. And then waited for her.
20 minutes later she arrived with a knock on the door. I opened the door to reveal her. She was.....not exactly my type. Very skinny (I prefer curvier women). Very short hair (I prefer longer hair). Very tall (I prefer women of smaller to average height). In short.....I wasn't very attracted to her.
She walked in the room. She looked at me with a mischievous look. Without saying a word, she removed her blouse. And then her skirt. She had very sexy, lacy undergarments. Silently, she moved toward me. Kneeling before me. Unzipping me. Pulling down my pants. Taking me in her mouth.....sucking expertly.
Then leading me to the bed. Allowing me to kiss her....everywhere. Responding to my every touch with deep sighs and sexy moans. Then she turned me on back, and got on top of me. Slid me inside her. And began riding me like her life depended on it. She felt amazing. Harder and faster, just at the right times....she knew what she was doing.
I turned her over and began fucking her missionary style. She was spread wide, wet, and guiding my hips at the speed she liked. We both moaned faster.....approaching the same place at the same time.
We came together. It was an incredibly intense, powerful orgasm. I can't even say I remember what happened afterward. We may have made some small talk before we parted ways. I have not seen her again since. Even if I had wanted to, she made it clear initially that she was looking for a one-time experience.
Looking back, I still can't say I was very attracted to her. Not that she was horribly unattractive or anything, but just not my cup of tea. But she was seductive. And sensual. And knew what she was doing in bed. And I enjoyed every minute with her.
Looks aren't everything.
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Sex Without Attraction
As we segue into our next encounter, I start by posing this question: what happens when you are looking for someone to hook up with (NSA style), find someone, agree to meet them without seeing a picture, and then find that you're not really attracted to them? Can sex be really good without attraction?
Now, I'm sure many people are just saying, "well, why the hell would you not want to see what the person looks like beforehand to avoid this situation altogether??". Fair point, my friends. At least for me, I have arranged to meet with several people without seeing a picture first. Why? Because it adds to the excitement level. Creates an air of mystery. Not knowing exactly what to expect heightens your senses significantly, and can create nicely elevated arousal levels.
Are there some precautions to be taken in this type of scenario? Of course. I always ask potential encounters to describe themselves to me. I enjoy hearing their descriptions and imaging what they might look like. Getting a mental image can be alot more fun than just seeing a picture and eliminating all of the mystery. And of course, if someone says they are 500 pounds and missing half their teeth, we can safely avoid an awkward situation. Though many people tend to stretch the truth a little bit when describing themselves, I've found that most people are at least in the ballpark.
Anyway, the question still remains. You've chatted with someone. Gotten a description of them that sounds promising. Agreed to meet them somewhere private. And when you see them.....you're just not finding them very attractive. Not necessarily repulsive, like our 500 pound friend with no teeth, but just not quite your cup of tea. You don't even have the scenario that everyone experiences where you're initially not attracted to someone, and then you get to know them and get closer emotionally to them, and then the physical attraction seems to develop later. Sorry, you're just meeting the person now!
Can sex still be good with someone you're not immediately attracted to? Can it be really good?
YES IT CAN! Stay tuned......
Now, I'm sure many people are just saying, "well, why the hell would you not want to see what the person looks like beforehand to avoid this situation altogether??". Fair point, my friends. At least for me, I have arranged to meet with several people without seeing a picture first. Why? Because it adds to the excitement level. Creates an air of mystery. Not knowing exactly what to expect heightens your senses significantly, and can create nicely elevated arousal levels.
Are there some precautions to be taken in this type of scenario? Of course. I always ask potential encounters to describe themselves to me. I enjoy hearing their descriptions and imaging what they might look like. Getting a mental image can be alot more fun than just seeing a picture and eliminating all of the mystery. And of course, if someone says they are 500 pounds and missing half their teeth, we can safely avoid an awkward situation. Though many people tend to stretch the truth a little bit when describing themselves, I've found that most people are at least in the ballpark.
Anyway, the question still remains. You've chatted with someone. Gotten a description of them that sounds promising. Agreed to meet them somewhere private. And when you see them.....you're just not finding them very attractive. Not necessarily repulsive, like our 500 pound friend with no teeth, but just not quite your cup of tea. You don't even have the scenario that everyone experiences where you're initially not attracted to someone, and then you get to know them and get closer emotionally to them, and then the physical attraction seems to develop later. Sorry, you're just meeting the person now!
Can sex still be good with someone you're not immediately attracted to? Can it be really good?
YES IT CAN! Stay tuned......
Thursday, August 12, 2010
Phone/Cyber Sex Challenge: Wrap-Up
The phone/cyber sex challenge has concluded. Here is a summary of the results.
As I expected, there were not a large amount of people brave enough to take me up on the challenge (despite many vehement arguments against my post claiming both activities to be overrated). Though this was not shocking, it did not provide a significant amount of chances for my mind to be changed. Anyway, here are the results....of course, each individual will remain anonymous.
Total number of responses received: 6
Total number of people for phone sex: 2
Total number of people for cyber sex: 4
Total number of people actually following through on phone sex: 1
Total number of people actually following through on cyber sex: 3
So overall, a total of 4 real contestants. The phone sex contestant was very anxious during our session. It was enjoyable, but went fairly quickly. She did have a sexy voice though, despite her nerves. Cyber contestant #1 was not very good, I'm afraid to say. Very un-descriptive and rushed. Though she did self-identify this as we went along. I think she was just kind of bored and horny, so she figured that she would play the game. Can't fault her for that.
Cyber contestant #2, a fellow blogger, was MUCH better. Very erotic, writes very well, and did an excellent job. Though we both enjoyed the session, here was the funny part.....she thought cyber/phone sex was overrated too! And despite the fact that we both had fun, we both came away with the same conclusion.....we were right! Not that the session wasn't good, but it just left us wanting each other for real! And sadly, due to lack of proximity, that just wasn't in the cards.
Cyber contestant #3 was interesting....she LOVED cyber sex, and was convinced to show me that it was the best thing since sliced bread. Was she good? Yes. Did she convince me? No. Why not? She had me thinking about cyber contestant #2 the entire time, and how badly I wanted to experience my session with her in real life!
Conclusions:
1. Most enjoyable experience: Cyber contestant #2
2. Change in opinion of either phone or cyber sex: No
3. Why no change of opinion: Simply because either experience is going to lead to one of two outcomes: 1) it's going to be somewhat awkward and not so great, or 2) it's going to be really good, and you're just going to want to fuck the person for real!!!
4. When is cyber/phone sex good: In the context of a longer term relationship, where it can be used to add some spice when people are apart....and it is guaranteed they will be fucking in person again soon!
Ok, I think I've belabored this topic enough now. We will move on with our story shortly.
As I expected, there were not a large amount of people brave enough to take me up on the challenge (despite many vehement arguments against my post claiming both activities to be overrated). Though this was not shocking, it did not provide a significant amount of chances for my mind to be changed. Anyway, here are the results....of course, each individual will remain anonymous.
Total number of responses received: 6
Total number of people for phone sex: 2
Total number of people for cyber sex: 4
Total number of people actually following through on phone sex: 1
Total number of people actually following through on cyber sex: 3
So overall, a total of 4 real contestants. The phone sex contestant was very anxious during our session. It was enjoyable, but went fairly quickly. She did have a sexy voice though, despite her nerves. Cyber contestant #1 was not very good, I'm afraid to say. Very un-descriptive and rushed. Though she did self-identify this as we went along. I think she was just kind of bored and horny, so she figured that she would play the game. Can't fault her for that.
Cyber contestant #2, a fellow blogger, was MUCH better. Very erotic, writes very well, and did an excellent job. Though we both enjoyed the session, here was the funny part.....she thought cyber/phone sex was overrated too! And despite the fact that we both had fun, we both came away with the same conclusion.....we were right! Not that the session wasn't good, but it just left us wanting each other for real! And sadly, due to lack of proximity, that just wasn't in the cards.
Cyber contestant #3 was interesting....she LOVED cyber sex, and was convinced to show me that it was the best thing since sliced bread. Was she good? Yes. Did she convince me? No. Why not? She had me thinking about cyber contestant #2 the entire time, and how badly I wanted to experience my session with her in real life!
Conclusions:
1. Most enjoyable experience: Cyber contestant #2
2. Change in opinion of either phone or cyber sex: No
3. Why no change of opinion: Simply because either experience is going to lead to one of two outcomes: 1) it's going to be somewhat awkward and not so great, or 2) it's going to be really good, and you're just going to want to fuck the person for real!!!
4. When is cyber/phone sex good: In the context of a longer term relationship, where it can be used to add some spice when people are apart....and it is guaranteed they will be fucking in person again soon!
Ok, I think I've belabored this topic enough now. We will move on with our story shortly.
Sunday, August 8, 2010
Encounter #9: Part 2
(Note: For purposes of this blog, an "encounter" refers to a particular person I hooked up with at some point. Some people were seen multiple times, but I am not counting each instance as a separate encounter here. Like today, I plan to write about follow-up encounters only when there is something noteworthy....can't imagine anyone would just want a post written purely to describe more sex, right???)
So, as we left off, I just had a lovely encounter with our married friend, Kim. She invited me to meet her again, and I agreed. Although I do like the one and done encounters, it is sometimes fun to see someone multiple times when we really seem to click well. I was still a little uneasy about her being married, particularly since seemed pretty emotional and upset about the way her marriage was unraveling. There was potential for messiness, but I forged ahead nonetheless.
We met again the following week.....twice. The sex was great again both times. She was sensual and vocal, and even a little kinky! The post-sex discussion revolved around her describing the problems in her marriage. Both times she became emotional and started crying. I felt very badly for her and the terrible situation she was in (her husband sounded like a complete dick). She told me how nice it was to be with someone who appreciated her and treated her well, and wondered why her husband could not do the same. It felt good to hear that, though it was sad that her she felt trapped in such an unhappy life. She loved her son, and wouldn't hurt him by going through a painful divorce process. So she was going to stick it out, no matter how miserable she became. And trust me, she was miserable.
A few days after I saw her for the third time, she emailed me. She told me that despite the misery her husband was putting her through, she felt unbearable guilt about straying from her marriage. She had told her husband about seeing me. He was of course enraged, though she assured me that she would not give him any specific information about me (not that she really had much to give, aside from the email address I was writing her on). She told me she was sorry, but that she had made a mistake, and could not see me again. That was the last I ever heard from her.
I felt terrible for her. From what she described of her husband, he wouldn't be the type to leave her for cheating....he was too insecure himself. He would probably just use it as more reason to treat her like shit. And it made me angry, because without going into detail, she had plenty of justification to be cheating on him. But she was very conservative with a religious background, and couldn't keep doing it. I hope she finds the courage to leave him eventually.
I was actually a little nervous for a while after this....kept expecting her psycho husband to be waiting for me in a dark alley somewhere. But luckily, it did not occur. Perhaps now though you understand my nervousness about meeting married women for "NSA" encounters. You never know when there might be some strings!
You're probably assuming this was the last encounter I had with a married woman, right? I thought it would be too....but I was later convinced otherwise. With much better results. But we'll get to that story soon enough!
So, as we left off, I just had a lovely encounter with our married friend, Kim. She invited me to meet her again, and I agreed. Although I do like the one and done encounters, it is sometimes fun to see someone multiple times when we really seem to click well. I was still a little uneasy about her being married, particularly since seemed pretty emotional and upset about the way her marriage was unraveling. There was potential for messiness, but I forged ahead nonetheless.
We met again the following week.....twice. The sex was great again both times. She was sensual and vocal, and even a little kinky! The post-sex discussion revolved around her describing the problems in her marriage. Both times she became emotional and started crying. I felt very badly for her and the terrible situation she was in (her husband sounded like a complete dick). She told me how nice it was to be with someone who appreciated her and treated her well, and wondered why her husband could not do the same. It felt good to hear that, though it was sad that her she felt trapped in such an unhappy life. She loved her son, and wouldn't hurt him by going through a painful divorce process. So she was going to stick it out, no matter how miserable she became. And trust me, she was miserable.
A few days after I saw her for the third time, she emailed me. She told me that despite the misery her husband was putting her through, she felt unbearable guilt about straying from her marriage. She had told her husband about seeing me. He was of course enraged, though she assured me that she would not give him any specific information about me (not that she really had much to give, aside from the email address I was writing her on). She told me she was sorry, but that she had made a mistake, and could not see me again. That was the last I ever heard from her.
I felt terrible for her. From what she described of her husband, he wouldn't be the type to leave her for cheating....he was too insecure himself. He would probably just use it as more reason to treat her like shit. And it made me angry, because without going into detail, she had plenty of justification to be cheating on him. But she was very conservative with a religious background, and couldn't keep doing it. I hope she finds the courage to leave him eventually.
I was actually a little nervous for a while after this....kept expecting her psycho husband to be waiting for me in a dark alley somewhere. But luckily, it did not occur. Perhaps now though you understand my nervousness about meeting married women for "NSA" encounters. You never know when there might be some strings!
You're probably assuming this was the last encounter I had with a married woman, right? I thought it would be too....but I was later convinced otherwise. With much better results. But we'll get to that story soon enough!
Friday, August 6, 2010
Encounter #9: Strings Attached?
It started with a post I made offering a sensual massage.
She was the first person to respond. And she responded quickly....within about 15 minutes of the post being published. She seemed very eager, which of course was a good sign.
Her name was Kim. She was in her mid-30's, lived within about a 20 minute drive of where I live. She told me that she had blond hair, green eyes, and stood about 5'5.
And she was married. With a 6 year old son.
When she threw that in, the warning bells started going off in my head. All the potential risks that I described in my previous post starting rushing into my mind. The angry husband. The baggage. The risk of her unhappiness in her marriage (which she confirmed) leading her to want more than just a casual experience with me. It was alot to process. Perhaps if I was also married, I might have been able to rationalize it as an even playing field. But being single, that was certainly not the case. I thought about it long and hard, until finally making a decision. I was going to go for it. You only live once, have to take some risks every now and then. She sounded sexy and eager. I was going to give it a shot.
We met two days later. She was as attractive as she described. I gave her a long, full-body massage. Teasing her between her legs as my fingers brushed by repeatedly. That led to me going down on her. Which led to her going down on me. Which led to us fucking. (Have I finally convinced everyone about the gateway potential of the massage??). Each step of the way was passionate, erotic, and extremely pleasurable. As we laid in bed together afterward, I was thinking to myself that I had made the right decision. It was one of the most fun encounters I have had so far, if not the most fun. What was I worrying about?
Then she said, "when can we do this again"? And that was when the warning bells started again. She wanted more than a one time experience. But how much more?
I would agree to see her again the following week to find out.....
She was the first person to respond. And she responded quickly....within about 15 minutes of the post being published. She seemed very eager, which of course was a good sign.
Her name was Kim. She was in her mid-30's, lived within about a 20 minute drive of where I live. She told me that she had blond hair, green eyes, and stood about 5'5.
And she was married. With a 6 year old son.
When she threw that in, the warning bells started going off in my head. All the potential risks that I described in my previous post starting rushing into my mind. The angry husband. The baggage. The risk of her unhappiness in her marriage (which she confirmed) leading her to want more than just a casual experience with me. It was alot to process. Perhaps if I was also married, I might have been able to rationalize it as an even playing field. But being single, that was certainly not the case. I thought about it long and hard, until finally making a decision. I was going to go for it. You only live once, have to take some risks every now and then. She sounded sexy and eager. I was going to give it a shot.
We met two days later. She was as attractive as she described. I gave her a long, full-body massage. Teasing her between her legs as my fingers brushed by repeatedly. That led to me going down on her. Which led to her going down on me. Which led to us fucking. (Have I finally convinced everyone about the gateway potential of the massage??). Each step of the way was passionate, erotic, and extremely pleasurable. As we laid in bed together afterward, I was thinking to myself that I had made the right decision. It was one of the most fun encounters I have had so far, if not the most fun. What was I worrying about?
Then she said, "when can we do this again"? And that was when the warning bells started again. She wanted more than a one time experience. But how much more?
I would agree to see her again the following week to find out.....
Sunday, August 1, 2010
Pros and Cons of Being with a Married Woman
This post is a segue into my next CL encounter.....
As I had mentioned, I am a single guy. Never have been married (almost was.....but that is a story for another day). So, as you might expect, I typically seek out single women to have my fun experiences with. Not overly shocking so far, right? Well, my experiences with CL have opened my eyes to an interesting reality......there are a pretty good amount of married women out there who are looking for encounters on the side. Some are dissatisfied with their sex lives at home, some are looking for an emotional need to be met, and some are just feeling neglected in general. I should also note that some are in an open marriage where such experiences are accepted and encouraged, though we will get more into that in a later encounter. I know, sorry for all the teasing today. But one story at a time!
Anyway, perhaps I am naive, but I found this all to be pretty surprising. I had kinda assumed that married MEN would be the ones prowling a site like CL for extramarital action. But apparently a good amount of married women are doing the same thing. So with that being the case, before we get to our next story, let's just examine the pros and cons of a single guy hooking up with a married woman:
PROS:
1. These women are certainly looking for sex without strings!
2. Less worry about expectations for longer term relationships.
3. Many married women in this situation are very sexually frustrated, which makes it all the more exciting to be the one to be able to finally meet their sexual needs!
4. MILFs can be pretty hot!
5. Greater chance to have fun with someone who might have less experience experimenting with different things, which adds extra excitement and intensity.
CONS:
1. Big, angry husbands coming after me.
2. Possibly getting caught up in a messy situation if divorce is forthcoming.
3. Extra stress with the increased need to be ultra discrete (though this could be kind of a turn on too, so I guess it can be a pro or con).
4. The "I want to leave my husband and run away with you" potential. Perhaps not overly likely, but always a thought in the back of your head.
5. The "what if I really did fall for this woman and there is no shot for anything beyond this" potential. Again, may not be extremely likely, but who knows?
So there are the arguments both ways. We'll get into the story of my related encounter next time!
As I had mentioned, I am a single guy. Never have been married (almost was.....but that is a story for another day). So, as you might expect, I typically seek out single women to have my fun experiences with. Not overly shocking so far, right? Well, my experiences with CL have opened my eyes to an interesting reality......there are a pretty good amount of married women out there who are looking for encounters on the side. Some are dissatisfied with their sex lives at home, some are looking for an emotional need to be met, and some are just feeling neglected in general. I should also note that some are in an open marriage where such experiences are accepted and encouraged, though we will get more into that in a later encounter. I know, sorry for all the teasing today. But one story at a time!
Anyway, perhaps I am naive, but I found this all to be pretty surprising. I had kinda assumed that married MEN would be the ones prowling a site like CL for extramarital action. But apparently a good amount of married women are doing the same thing. So with that being the case, before we get to our next story, let's just examine the pros and cons of a single guy hooking up with a married woman:
PROS:
1. These women are certainly looking for sex without strings!
2. Less worry about expectations for longer term relationships.
3. Many married women in this situation are very sexually frustrated, which makes it all the more exciting to be the one to be able to finally meet their sexual needs!
4. MILFs can be pretty hot!
5. Greater chance to have fun with someone who might have less experience experimenting with different things, which adds extra excitement and intensity.
CONS:
1. Big, angry husbands coming after me.
2. Possibly getting caught up in a messy situation if divorce is forthcoming.
3. Extra stress with the increased need to be ultra discrete (though this could be kind of a turn on too, so I guess it can be a pro or con).
4. The "I want to leave my husband and run away with you" potential. Perhaps not overly likely, but always a thought in the back of your head.
5. The "what if I really did fall for this woman and there is no shot for anything beyond this" potential. Again, may not be extremely likely, but who knows?
So there are the arguments both ways. We'll get into the story of my related encounter next time!
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Update: Phone/Cyber Sex Challenge
Just a quick update on the phone/cybersex challenge. So far, only two brave souls have contacted me. One seems very interested in convincing me how good cyber sex can be, while the other seems tentative about giving me a mind-blowing session of phone sex. Not sure if she will have the guts to give it a shot, but we'll see. Contestant #1 seems like a definite go though, so we'll see how she does in our cyber session.
After all the private messages I received last time, I expected more confident women to take me up on this challenge! There's still time to prove me wrong though, so shoot me an email. No need to be shy :)
Blog recommendation for the day: check out Mina's (Secret Desire) latest......you'll need a cold shower afterward.
After all the private messages I received last time, I expected more confident women to take me up on this challenge! There's still time to prove me wrong though, so shoot me an email. No need to be shy :)
Blog recommendation for the day: check out Mina's (Secret Desire) latest......you'll need a cold shower afterward.
Saturday, July 24, 2010
Encounter #8: Not So Fast.....Part 2
So, where did we leave off?
Ah yes. I had just brought this lovely lady to a powerful orgasm with my tongue, after bringing her right to the edge over and over again. And now she was saying it was my turn. I was feeling a little apprehensive.
She started by very slowly stroking me, up and down. Not fast enough to get me off, but just enough speed to feel quite good. She kissed me as she stroked. It felt wonderful. As she began speeding up with her hand, I tried to brace myself, knowing what was coming (or not coming!). But, as all guys know, trying too hard not to cum just accomplishes the opposite. So it was getting me there faster. I was so close....it felt so good....and then.....yes...she stopped. Ahh damn!
It was very frustrating, yet it did excite me on some level. Especially when she put me inside her mouth after I had a moment to calm down a little. Sucking me slowing. Up and down. Using her hand to stroke gently as she sucked. Again, I was getting there quickly. She was too good. I felt those initial quivers. The waves building within me. And she stopped.....looking at me with a devilish grin.
I was dying. I had to cum, and was aroused out of my mind. If she didn't do something quickly, I was going to go crazy. Fortunately, she did. She quickly pulled out a condom, and put it on me. Then jumped on top of me, and began riding me. No fooling around or teasing this time....she rode me hard and fast. I had no chance of lasting and erupted in a mind-blowing orgasm. Wow.
I have mixed memories of this encounter. It was incredibly intense and arousing, though I can still almost feel the torturous frustration from that day. So, do I recommend orgasm denial and edging? I would say yes, but on a limited basis. Too much of that would be enough to drive anyone insane! Even if it is insane in kind of a good way......
Ah yes. I had just brought this lovely lady to a powerful orgasm with my tongue, after bringing her right to the edge over and over again. And now she was saying it was my turn. I was feeling a little apprehensive.
She started by very slowly stroking me, up and down. Not fast enough to get me off, but just enough speed to feel quite good. She kissed me as she stroked. It felt wonderful. As she began speeding up with her hand, I tried to brace myself, knowing what was coming (or not coming!). But, as all guys know, trying too hard not to cum just accomplishes the opposite. So it was getting me there faster. I was so close....it felt so good....and then.....yes...she stopped. Ahh damn!
It was very frustrating, yet it did excite me on some level. Especially when she put me inside her mouth after I had a moment to calm down a little. Sucking me slowing. Up and down. Using her hand to stroke gently as she sucked. Again, I was getting there quickly. She was too good. I felt those initial quivers. The waves building within me. And she stopped.....looking at me with a devilish grin.
I was dying. I had to cum, and was aroused out of my mind. If she didn't do something quickly, I was going to go crazy. Fortunately, she did. She quickly pulled out a condom, and put it on me. Then jumped on top of me, and began riding me. No fooling around or teasing this time....she rode me hard and fast. I had no chance of lasting and erupted in a mind-blowing orgasm. Wow.
I have mixed memories of this encounter. It was incredibly intense and arousing, though I can still almost feel the torturous frustration from that day. So, do I recommend orgasm denial and edging? I would say yes, but on a limited basis. Too much of that would be enough to drive anyone insane! Even if it is insane in kind of a good way......
Friday, July 23, 2010
Phone/Cyber Sex Challenge
After my post where I claimed phone sex and cyber sex to be vastly overrated, I actually got a few private messages telling me how wrong I was. Claiming how hot and exciting either could be if I was doing it with the right person. Each email suggested (subtly and not so subtly in some cases) that if the phone and/or cyber sex had taken place with THEM, that I'd be singing a different tune. I just didn't know what I was missing!
Fair enough. In response to these messages I received, I would like to put out a challenge. A challenge to any reader who thinks I am wrong about the quality of phone and cyber sex, and wants to prove me wrong. The challenge is simple....engage me in a steamy session of phone or cyber sex (your choice). Prove to me that I was way off, and just missing out on the experience with the right person. The first person who seriously makes the experience so stimulating that it makes my opinion waver will get a post devoted to them and how they pulled off the impossible. I will admit I was wrong, and praise this individual to the high heavens for making me see the light.
Let's see if any of my previous private messengers (or anyone else) is brave enough to give it a try. Just email me if you are interested (link in my profile). Good luck!
For everyone else, we'll be back to our regularly scheduled CL stories next post.
Fair enough. In response to these messages I received, I would like to put out a challenge. A challenge to any reader who thinks I am wrong about the quality of phone and cyber sex, and wants to prove me wrong. The challenge is simple....engage me in a steamy session of phone or cyber sex (your choice). Prove to me that I was way off, and just missing out on the experience with the right person. The first person who seriously makes the experience so stimulating that it makes my opinion waver will get a post devoted to them and how they pulled off the impossible. I will admit I was wrong, and praise this individual to the high heavens for making me see the light.
Let's see if any of my previous private messengers (or anyone else) is brave enough to give it a try. Just email me if you are interested (link in my profile). Good luck!
For everyone else, we'll be back to our regularly scheduled CL stories next post.
Monday, July 19, 2010
Tangent #7: Most Desirable Bloggers
If you're like me, you fall into one of the following categories: 1. You write a sex-related blog. 2. You enjoy reading sex-related blogs. 3. You write a sex-related blog AND enjoy reading other sex-related blogs. 4. You just like sex in general.
So it's established, we're all pretty much in the same boat. I don't know about everyone else, but my mind often wanders and fantasizes when I read other blogs. Female blogs primarily, of course (no offense to Riff and others....I enjoy several male blogs as well, just not in quite the same way we are discussing today). But in those several female blogs I read consistently, I often get caught up in the stories. Wonder what it would be like to actually be with that person in the scenario they are describing. Think about how compatible we might be. What it might be like to touch them. Of course, those who post sexy little teaser pics just make this all the more easy! As do those who write in a certain way that just sucks you in.
With all that being said, here are my top 5 most desirable bloggers (in no particular order). All five can be found on my blog list to the bottom right of this post:
1. Secretly Naughty: Sexy stories? Check. Enticing pictures? Check. Appealing writing style? Double check. The verdict? Very desirable!
2. Gwen ("Sweetly Unassuming"): Gwen is a new blogger, just getting her blog off the ground. The foundation she has set is very engaging....makes me want to hear more about her story. I feel like I can relate to some of her general experiences already. And she just has a sexy vibe about her....
3. Sadie ("Sexy Sadie's Stories....."): Love the format of her confessions. Love the way she writes. Love the absolutely gorgeous pictures. Extremely desirable.
4. Kiera ("My Secret Hobby"): Kiera is really intriguing. Even moving past the seductive pictures on her site.....what blog with the subtitle "The Pursuit of Cock" can possible be bad?? And it isn't, believe. Also love the short, to the point posts (e.g., "I've been a bad horny girl. Punish me, please". The end). I desire Kiera.
5. Joanna Cake ("Having My Cake and Eating it Too): First of all, the cake theme is done very cleverly throughout the blog. Secondly, Joanna does a great job talking about a variety of diverse, interesting topics in her blog. But what makes her extra desirable? She offers readers a chance to order a recording of her reading one of her sexy posts in her assuredly sexy voice. How can you beat that??
Pretty desirable group of ladies there guys, trust me. Highly recommend all of their blogs.
So it's established, we're all pretty much in the same boat. I don't know about everyone else, but my mind often wanders and fantasizes when I read other blogs. Female blogs primarily, of course (no offense to Riff and others....I enjoy several male blogs as well, just not in quite the same way we are discussing today). But in those several female blogs I read consistently, I often get caught up in the stories. Wonder what it would be like to actually be with that person in the scenario they are describing. Think about how compatible we might be. What it might be like to touch them. Of course, those who post sexy little teaser pics just make this all the more easy! As do those who write in a certain way that just sucks you in.
With all that being said, here are my top 5 most desirable bloggers (in no particular order). All five can be found on my blog list to the bottom right of this post:
1. Secretly Naughty: Sexy stories? Check. Enticing pictures? Check. Appealing writing style? Double check. The verdict? Very desirable!
2. Gwen ("Sweetly Unassuming"): Gwen is a new blogger, just getting her blog off the ground. The foundation she has set is very engaging....makes me want to hear more about her story. I feel like I can relate to some of her general experiences already. And she just has a sexy vibe about her....
3. Sadie ("Sexy Sadie's Stories....."): Love the format of her confessions. Love the way she writes. Love the absolutely gorgeous pictures. Extremely desirable.
4. Kiera ("My Secret Hobby"): Kiera is really intriguing. Even moving past the seductive pictures on her site.....what blog with the subtitle "The Pursuit of Cock" can possible be bad?? And it isn't, believe. Also love the short, to the point posts (e.g., "I've been a bad horny girl. Punish me, please". The end). I desire Kiera.
5. Joanna Cake ("Having My Cake and Eating it Too): First of all, the cake theme is done very cleverly throughout the blog. Secondly, Joanna does a great job talking about a variety of diverse, interesting topics in her blog. But what makes her extra desirable? She offers readers a chance to order a recording of her reading one of her sexy posts in her assuredly sexy voice. How can you beat that??
Pretty desirable group of ladies there guys, trust me. Highly recommend all of their blogs.
Friday, July 16, 2010
Encounter #8: Not So Fast.....Part 1
She had responded to the oral sex post. She was definitely interested in receiving.....but.....she was also interested in giving! It was the first response I had gotten to my "oral sex for you" posts, where the woman actually said in her email that she would be willing to reciprocate. I was excited.
Then she wrote that, although she would reciprocate, there might be a little 'twist'. Hmmm, a twist. I wondered what she meant. Did she want to suck some chocolate syrup off of my penis or something? That would be a nice twist! Well, that wasn't exactly what she had in mind.
We got together in a nice local motel a few days after exchanging emails. She was definitely cute....short, but nice and curvy with dark hair and eyes. After some initial chit chat, we began kissing. She was a very good kisser, which is an underappreciated skill these days. We slowly undressed, exploring each other's bodies with our fingers and mouths. She had wonderful, smooth skin that was amazing to touch. I was getting ready to make my descent to her happy place, when she suddenly whispered this to me....
"I want you to get me really close to cumming with your tongue.....and then stop just before I do". Um, ok. But what then? "Then you lick me again....and stop just before again". I wasn't quite sure what to say. I asked how I should keep this up for? She wanted me to eventually let her cum....but she wanted to be surprised by it. Eventually, just keep going and finish her off.
So, I did as she pleased. Slow circles with my tongue around her clit, sucking on it gently with my lips, sliding a finger inside. She always warned me when she was really close....."I'm gonna cum....". And I would stop. She had this look on her face that was a weird combination of frustration and euphoria. She was getting off on this orgasm denial. Finally, after what must have been 7 or 8 rounds of this, I kept going....and she exploded. It was actually really hot, she was screaming in pleasure. Holding my head tightly between her legs, fingers in my hair. Until she finally let go, and fell backwards. Spent.
I moved up next to her....I love to see the look on a woman's face up close after she has just had an orgasm. She looked and me and said "that was really nice". Then she started kissing me and rubbing me between my legs. Then started moving downward. I looked down at her and jokingly said, "one round will be enough for me!". She flashed me an evil grin, and said "no, it actually won't". Uh oh.
Conclusion to come....
Then she wrote that, although she would reciprocate, there might be a little 'twist'. Hmmm, a twist. I wondered what she meant. Did she want to suck some chocolate syrup off of my penis or something? That would be a nice twist! Well, that wasn't exactly what she had in mind.
We got together in a nice local motel a few days after exchanging emails. She was definitely cute....short, but nice and curvy with dark hair and eyes. After some initial chit chat, we began kissing. She was a very good kisser, which is an underappreciated skill these days. We slowly undressed, exploring each other's bodies with our fingers and mouths. She had wonderful, smooth skin that was amazing to touch. I was getting ready to make my descent to her happy place, when she suddenly whispered this to me....
"I want you to get me really close to cumming with your tongue.....and then stop just before I do". Um, ok. But what then? "Then you lick me again....and stop just before again". I wasn't quite sure what to say. I asked how I should keep this up for? She wanted me to eventually let her cum....but she wanted to be surprised by it. Eventually, just keep going and finish her off.
So, I did as she pleased. Slow circles with my tongue around her clit, sucking on it gently with my lips, sliding a finger inside. She always warned me when she was really close....."I'm gonna cum....". And I would stop. She had this look on her face that was a weird combination of frustration and euphoria. She was getting off on this orgasm denial. Finally, after what must have been 7 or 8 rounds of this, I kept going....and she exploded. It was actually really hot, she was screaming in pleasure. Holding my head tightly between her legs, fingers in my hair. Until she finally let go, and fell backwards. Spent.
I moved up next to her....I love to see the look on a woman's face up close after she has just had an orgasm. She looked and me and said "that was really nice". Then she started kissing me and rubbing me between my legs. Then started moving downward. I looked down at her and jokingly said, "one round will be enough for me!". She flashed me an evil grin, and said "no, it actually won't". Uh oh.
Conclusion to come....
Monday, July 12, 2010
Orgasm Denial
This is another prelude to the next CL encounter, and thus does not count as a 'tangent'. As always, just mentioning for the sake of being nice and organized.....
So anyway, tonight's topic is indeed orgasm denial. Though the name is fairly self-explanatory, the phrase refers to the act of bringing your partner to the brink of orgasm, and then not allowing it to occur. Repeatedly. From this point, it can go in a couple of different directions, depending on how hard-core the people involved are. For the die hard S&M crowd, orgasm may never be allowed. And the pleasure of the experience is derived from the pain of ultimate denial, and the pleasure of having the power to deny your partner of that elusive orgasm.
Not sure what you think, but that's not exactly up my alley. I much prefer the "softer" version of orgasm denial, sometimes referred to as "edging". In this case, orgasm denial begins in the same manner as described before. Partners take turns rubbing and licking and sucking and everything else, and stopping before each reaches that plateau. But the purpose this time is to create a much more powerful, intense orgasm when it finally does occur. It also creates a delicious mystery, where the person on the receiving end is left to wonder.....is this when I'm going to finally be able to cum? The uncertainty and desperation is part of the turn-on. What is more arousing than seeing your lover in a state where they are just dying for release, and it's solely up to you to give it to them. It's also a very vulnerable position to be in, and requires alot of trust between the people involved. Even if there is an understanding that orgasm will definitely occur, one person is still in a position of pretty significant power. Not exactly the type of thing you'd expect from two people just meeting for the first time after connecting on CL, right?
No, I wouldn't think so either. But, as is often the case, I would be wrong. Stay tuned!
So anyway, tonight's topic is indeed orgasm denial. Though the name is fairly self-explanatory, the phrase refers to the act of bringing your partner to the brink of orgasm, and then not allowing it to occur. Repeatedly. From this point, it can go in a couple of different directions, depending on how hard-core the people involved are. For the die hard S&M crowd, orgasm may never be allowed. And the pleasure of the experience is derived from the pain of ultimate denial, and the pleasure of having the power to deny your partner of that elusive orgasm.
Not sure what you think, but that's not exactly up my alley. I much prefer the "softer" version of orgasm denial, sometimes referred to as "edging". In this case, orgasm denial begins in the same manner as described before. Partners take turns rubbing and licking and sucking and everything else, and stopping before each reaches that plateau. But the purpose this time is to create a much more powerful, intense orgasm when it finally does occur. It also creates a delicious mystery, where the person on the receiving end is left to wonder.....is this when I'm going to finally be able to cum? The uncertainty and desperation is part of the turn-on. What is more arousing than seeing your lover in a state where they are just dying for release, and it's solely up to you to give it to them. It's also a very vulnerable position to be in, and requires alot of trust between the people involved. Even if there is an understanding that orgasm will definitely occur, one person is still in a position of pretty significant power. Not exactly the type of thing you'd expect from two people just meeting for the first time after connecting on CL, right?
No, I wouldn't think so either. But, as is often the case, I would be wrong. Stay tuned!
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Tangent #6: Hot and Bothered
I'm having one of those frustrating Saturday nights tonight.
You know the type of Saturday night I am talking about. You're alone (literally or figuratively). Your body is tingling with arousal and sexual desire from head to toe. It seems like there is nothing else in the world besides you and your desperate longing for somebody's touch. One of those nights where masturbation just isn't enough. You need that feeling of skin on skin, you need to hear the moans of someone else reflecting the pleasure that you are also feeling.
Sounds good so far, right? But here comes the frustrating part.....there is no one to fill this need for me tonight. The woman I have been casually seeing recently is not around. And I even went so far as to make a couple of calls to some women from the past that I still hook up with from time to time (one of which was a CL girl, though we haven't gotten to her story yet). But alas, they were not available.
Don't get me wrong, the bachelor lifestyle has its perks. Significant perks, in fact. But this is a big downside. To feel this way tonight, and not have a significant other to indulge in these desires, is borderline torture. I'm so turned on that I might even be willing go for phone/cyber sex tonight! Yes, the need is that strong.
I have so many fantasies running through my mind right now that it's hard to even keep track. For tonight though, they seem destined to remain fantasies. Unfulfilled desires.
I'm sure everyone has nights like this. Doesn't it suck?
You know the type of Saturday night I am talking about. You're alone (literally or figuratively). Your body is tingling with arousal and sexual desire from head to toe. It seems like there is nothing else in the world besides you and your desperate longing for somebody's touch. One of those nights where masturbation just isn't enough. You need that feeling of skin on skin, you need to hear the moans of someone else reflecting the pleasure that you are also feeling.
Sounds good so far, right? But here comes the frustrating part.....there is no one to fill this need for me tonight. The woman I have been casually seeing recently is not around. And I even went so far as to make a couple of calls to some women from the past that I still hook up with from time to time (one of which was a CL girl, though we haven't gotten to her story yet). But alas, they were not available.
Don't get me wrong, the bachelor lifestyle has its perks. Significant perks, in fact. But this is a big downside. To feel this way tonight, and not have a significant other to indulge in these desires, is borderline torture. I'm so turned on that I might even be willing go for phone/cyber sex tonight! Yes, the need is that strong.
I have so many fantasies running through my mind right now that it's hard to even keep track. For tonight though, they seem destined to remain fantasies. Unfulfilled desires.
I'm sure everyone has nights like this. Doesn't it suck?
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